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11/13/2025

You know those nights you lie awake replaying everything you “should have done better”?

“I should’ve caught the decline sooner.”
“I shouldn’t have left them alone that day.”
“I should’ve pushed the doctor harder.”

That’s not failure.
That’s regret and it’s neuroscience.

Regret happens when your brain compares a past choice to what you know now.
It creates pain because it can imagine a “better” outcome but your past self didn’t have today’s information.

Feeling regret isn’t proof you did something wrong.
It’s proof that you love deeply.
That you reflect.
That you care enough to want to do right by them.

You can’t change the past.
But you can change what your brain does with it. 💜

If this helped you feel seen, share it, someone else needs to hear it tonight.

11/12/2025

Most caregivers think the stress comes from their parent…
but the stress is really coming from the meaning your brain assigns in the moment.

Your amygdala reacts first - fast, emotional, protective.
Your prefrontal cortex - the calm, logical part reacts slower.

So when your parent refuses the shower again, your brain might jump to:
“He’s being difficult.”
“I can’t handle this.”
“I’m failing.”

But if you pause, even for a couple seconds, you interrupt that stress reaction.

Then you can choose a new meaning:
“What if he’s scared?”
“What if he’s confused?”
“What if this is about dignity, not defiance?”

The situation didn’t change.
Your internal response did.
That’s reframing and it changes everything. 💜

Your parent doesn’t have to change
for your stress level to change.

11/11/2025

Caregiving overwhelm isn’t just about having too much to do.
It’s the emotions you’ve had to hold down just to get through the day.

Guilt. Fear. Grief. Frustration.
Your mind keeps them pushed underwater, like holding down a beach ball…
and that takes so much energy.

You’re exhausted because you’re carrying so much not because you’re weak. 💜
You’re human. And you care.


11/10/2025

Most people think rehab lasts “as long as your parent needs it.”
But that’s not how it works.

Insurance decides when the therapy stops and when discharge happens.
And legally, they only need to give you 48 hours notice.
Two days to figure out new care, equipment, transportation, home safety, everything.

This is why asking early is so important.

Ask the rehab team:
“Do you have any sense of when insurance is likely to cut?”

Most of the time, they do have an estimate and knowing it sooner gives you more time to prepare.

You’re not alone in this.💜

11/09/2025

Most caregivers think they’re “bad at decisions.”
You’re not indecisive.
You’re exhausted.
Every decision uses mental energy, and your brain only has so much of it.
That’s not a metaphor it’s neuroscience.
The part of your brain that makes decisions runs on glucose and oxygen.
So every:
Should I or shouldn’t I
What should I say
How do I handle this
uses energy.
And caregivers make hundreds of decisions a day
most of them wrapped in emotion.
Should I call the doctor?
Is this the start of a decline?
Should they stay home or go to rehab?
That’s why sometimes you can’t make any decision at all.
That’s decision fatigue.
You don’t fix it by pushing harder.
You fix it by reducing the number of decisions you have to make. Systems. Routines. Checklists.
Each one gives your brain some energy back.
You are not failing.
Your brain is protecting you.


11/09/2025

Hearing your parent say, “You’re just trying to dump me here!” can cut deep.

But that reaction usually comes from fear: fear of losing independence, identity, or control.

Arguing or defending yourself only creates more distance.

So don’t make yourself the “bad guy.”
Redirect the decision to the care team, the safety requirements, the therapist, or the discharge plan.

It’s not about avoiding responsibility, it’s about keeping your connection intact.

This protects the relationship.
And the relationship is what matters most.💜

11/09/2025

One of the hardest parts of caregiving is seeing changes your parent truly can’t see in themselves.

When they say, “I’m fine. I don’t need help,” it’s often not denial, there’s a neurological reason.

It’s called anosognosia.
In the early stages of dementia, the brain regions responsible for self-awareness can be affected.
This disrupts metacognition: our ability to notice our own memory lapses or judgment changes.

So your parent may genuinely believe everything is the same.

Understanding this shifts the dynamic:
Less arguing… more compassion.
Less fear… more teamwork.

You’re not overreacting. And you’re not alone. 💜


11/06/2025

Most caregivers think overwhelm means they’re not strong enough. But overwhelm is actually just your brain running out of fuel.

Your brain can only process so much:
decisions
emotions
responsibility
worry

And when the input becomes more than your brain has the energy to handle, it shifts into survival mode.

That’s why you snap. That’s why you freeze. That’s why even the smallest decisions feel impossible.

And caregiving adds even more load:
your parent’s needs
your own guilt
your identity
your fear of losing them

All of that is competing for the same limited bandwidth.

You don’t fix overwhelm by pushing harder. You fix it by creating space so your brain can recover. And you start by getting clear on what’s actually burning your energy.

You are not failing. Your brain is protecting you. 💜

11/05/2025

When my mom broke her elbow, the hardest part wasn’t the fracture. It was getting the truth.

The portal said, “She broke her elbow. Get a sling.” But a sling doesn’t protect the fracture. It doesn’t tell you if they can move it, put weight on it, or use it to stand.

And if you don’t know those things, your parent could make the injury worse without even realizing it.

So if your parent fractures something and you only get a short note in the portal, ask for more.

Ask directly:
Can they move it
Can they put weight on it
What can they NOT do

Because those answers determine everything:
How you help them stand
Whether they need 24-hour support
How to keep them safe at home

The system doesn’t always tell us what we need. But we can ask for it. 💜

11/04/2025

You have an elderly parent who clearly needs help, but every time you suggest something… they resist or get angry.

Here are 3 ways to encourage them to accept the help you know they need.

1️⃣ Help them see it differently.
Start by listening to their objections.
Then tell them stories about others who accepted help and how much better things became.
You’re shifting their focus from what they’re losing to what they’re gaining.

2️⃣ Make the positives impossible to ignore.
Create a comparison list: pros, cons, and what might happen with or without help.
When they can see the difference, refusing starts to feel unreasonable.

3️⃣ Start small.
Find one area they really struggle with.
Ask if you can just “try it for a week.”
Then celebrate that win together.

These strategies aren’t just about getting them to agree.
They’re about helping them feel understood, respected, and in control again. 💜

If this resonated with you, share it, another caregiver might need to hear it today.

11/03/2025

If your parent keeps waking up at night, trying to get out of bed, and falling… don’t ignore it.

The first thing to ask is if they have dementia or another cognitive issue.
The next question is whether this behavior is new.

If it started suddenly in just the last few nights that’s a red flag. 🚨
It might not be “just dementia.”
Sudden confusion or falls can be a sign of something medical, like an infection.

Older adults with urinary tract infections often don’t have the same symptoms we do.
They might not complain of pain instead, they’ll get confused, agitated, or unusually tired.

So if you notice a sudden change, don’t assume it’s part of aging.
Call the doctor and check for medical causes first. 💜

If this opened your eyes, share it, it might help another caregiver catch something early.

11/02/2025

I watched a podcast that compared our mind to an iceberg.🧊
The conscious part, the part we think runs the show is just the tip.
The rest, our subconscious (or superconscious), is everything underneath.

That’s the part driving how we feel, react, and even caregive.
Because when we’re caring for a parent, we’re not just responding to today, we’re responding to everything that lives under the surface:
our old roles, our childhood patterns, our beliefs about who we are.

It’s uncomfortable to look at, but what’s buried doesn’t disappear.
It still drives how we show up every day.
When we start to face what’s underneath, how we feel about caregiving… changes.


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