02/24/2026
Every word matters when you speak to a custody evaluator. What you say — and what you don’t say — can absolutely shape how you’re perceived.
Don’t get caught slipping.
Avoid these three cringeworthy words or expressions :
1. “MY child” — Parenting is shared. Use “OUR child.”
2. “Mr.” or “Mrs.” — This isn’t a courtroom. Use your co-parent’s name. Personalization helps, even if you hate ‘em.
3. “Borderline” or “narcissist” — Don’t diagnose. Let the evaluator do that.
Custody evaluations aren’t just about facts. They’re about insight, maturity, and your capacity to support your child’s relationship with the other parent.
Speak thoughtfully. Stay child-focused. Be likable, And remember — every cringey word or expression
can (and will be) be used against you.
