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11/19/2025

Most coping tools start as something good, helping you regulate or feel in control. But over time, the nervous system can begin to rely on them for safety, and what once soothed you starts to confine you.

Mindfulness turns into avoidance when stillness becomes a way to not feel. Exercise turns into penance when movement becomes self-punishment. Helping turns into self-erasure when care for others replaces care for yourself.

Therapy helps you notice the function of a behavior, not just its form. Two people can do the same thing — journal, plan, work hard — and one might be expressing safety while the other is managing fear.

The goal isn’t to get rid of the tools that help you cope. It’s to make sure they’re serving your regulation, not your tear.

11/14/2025

You don’t have to feel bad for scrolling.

Sometimes it’s just how your brain takes a break.
It only becomes a problem when it stops feeling like rest. So before you keep going, take a second to notice your body.

You can still scroll! Just do it from a place that feels a little more here.

11/11/2025

For many people, perfectionism began as protection.

If you could just anticipate what others wanted, meet every expectation, or never make a mistake, maybe you’d feel secure. But over time, that vigilance starts to replace curiosity. You stop experimenting, not because you don’t want to, but because your body equates “unknown” with
“unsafe.”

Creativity reintroduces flexibility to the nervous system, engaging with the world through exploration instead of evaluation. When you create, you allow for uncertainty, mistake-making, and expression, all of which teach the body that looseness can coexist with safety.
Both perfectionism and creativity are ways of regulating anxiety, but where one tightens, the other softens.

11/06/2025

Many of us learned early that safety depended on tuning in to others - parents, teachers, bosses, partners — and tuning out our own cues. For some, that meant following authority to avoid conflict. For others, it meant scanning for approval or predicting what version of ourselves would be most acceptable.

Over time, the nervous system begins to mistake external certainty for safety. We start looking for answers from people who sound confident, instead of checking what feels true inside us.

Therapy helps reverse that pattern. It gives you space to pause before deferring, to ask what you actually think, and to notice what your body does when something feels right or wrong.

10/31/2025

Happy Halloween from all of us at Therapy Collective 🎃

Fear doesn’t always need to be battled. Sometimes the gentlest path is to notice it, breathe with it, and let it soften in its own time. Like any good ghost, tear tends to lose its power once it’s named and seen.

Wishing you a day that holds both lightness and care — may you find small ways to let yourself feel safe, playful, and free.

10/24/2025

This Comes Up a Lot — a series on the questions and patterns we hear again and again.

Many people leave therapy asking, “Why do I feel worse after?” The fatigue, the heaviness, the urge to crawl under the covers can make it easy to wonder if the work is really helping.

But exhaustion after a session isn’t a sign it’s not worth it, it’s a sign your nervous system has been doing deep, invisible work. Your body is processing what you brought into the room, and that effort takes energy.

If you feel worn out after therapy, it doesn’t mean you’re moving backwards. It means something important is unfolding, even if it takes rest to let it settle.

10/21/2025

As we approach the holiday season, it’s common to feel a mix of anticipation and dread. Busier schedules, family dynamics, and financial pressures can all build quickly.

Taking time now to prepare emotionally can make a difference later. A few ways to begin might be:

- Setting clear boundaries with family or friends about what you can and can’t do.
- Scheduling time for rest, even in the middle of busy days.
- Naming financial limits before the season starts, so spending feels intentional.
- Choosing a few traditions that actually nourish you, and letting go of the ones that don’t.

If you know the season tends to bring up stress, talking with your therapist now can help you name what feels most difficult and create a plan to support your well-being.

10/17/2025

When you’re caught in cycles of worry or self-criticism, it’s easy to feel like the answer is hidden in the “right thought.” If you could just think your way through it, maybe you’d feel better.

But our nervous systems don’t work that way. The mind and body are intertwined, and often the shift comes not from more thinking, but from gentle movement. Stretching, sighing, pressing your feet into the ground-these acts reorient your whole system toward calm.

This checklist is here to remind you that relief doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes it’s as simple as moving your body and letting that movement do what thinking can’t.

10/13/2025

We’re often told to notice when we use the word “should” because it can point to self-criticism or impossible expectations.

But “shoulds” don’t always show up so directly. They can hide inside everyday thoughts, quietly shaping the way we act or what we expect of ourselves.

When we uncover those hidden rules, we create the chance to meet ourselves with compassion and to choose a response that feels truer to who we are.

10/03/2025

Many of us mistake emotional release for weakness. Somewhere along the way, we learned that strength meant staying unaffected.

In truth, moving through emotion is what frees us. Therapy can be the space where you learn to let that process unfold safely, at your own pace.

09/26/2025

Rainer Maria Rilke often wrote about the human need to expand into the truth of ourselves. His image of unfolding captures what it means to move from constraint into authenticity.

Many people come to therapy carrying years of practice in keeping themselves contained. They may have learned to silence anger, to withhold needs, or to keep grief carefully hidden. Those folds were ways of staying connected to others and of protecting the self when the environment could not provide safety.

Unfolding in therapy happens slowly. It can look like naming a thought that once felt dangerous, allowing a feeling that had always been pushed aside, or noticing that closeness does not immediately lead to loss. Each of these moments loosens what had been tightly held and allows more of the self to be present.

Rilke’s words remind us that to remain folded is to live apart from what feels most real. Therapy creates space for a different kind of life, one in which the hidden parts of you can gradually be seen and held. To unfold is to return to the shape you were always meant to inhabit.

09/19/2025

Even on the hardest days, it helps to have words that steady you. These reminders are here to offer support when your own feel far away. You can return to them as often as you need, and let them stay with you until they begin to feel true.

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113 N San Vicente Boulevard
Beverly Hills, CA
90211

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+18054097101

Website

https://www.therapycollectiveca.com/

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