Dr. Shannon Chavez

Dr. Shannon Chavez Dr. Shannon Chavez
Licensed Psychologist and S*x Therapist

Shannon Chavez Qureshi, PsyD, CST is a nationally recognized expert, therapist, and educator specializing in “all things s*xuality” including help for men, women, LGBTQIA, and couples; the treatment of s*xual disorders; s*x education for conservative religious and cultural groups; s*xual trauma and abuse; and compulsive behaviors surrounding love, romance, and s*x. She is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in California (PSY26924) and Arizona (PSY004290) with a private practice in Beverly Hills, California (SHAPE Center) where she works with individuals and couples (of all genders and orientations) to address s*xual concerns and build s*xual awareness through therapy, coaching, and education.

02/18/2026

📵 Intimacy Tip: no phones in bed.

When your phone is beside you, your attention is divided. Research shows couples who keep devices out of the bedroom report higher satisfaction and emotional closeness.

✨ Try this tonight: charge your phone in another room. Replace scrolling with a simple ritual, conversation, stretching, or touch.

🛏️ Protect the bedroom as a connection zone.

Explore more intimacy insights at drshannonchavez.com
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Romance doesn’t start with a plan. It starts with safety.When the body feels pressured, it tightens.When it feels safe, ...
02/13/2026

Romance doesn’t start with a plan. It starts with safety.

When the body feels pressured, it tightens.
When it feels safe, it softens.

Atmosphere matters more than we think. Light. Sound. Space. Tone.
The smallest shifts in the environment can change how we feel in our own skin.

Whether you’re sharing that space with someone you love or reconnecting with yourself, start there.

Explore more intimacy insights at drshannonchavez.com

Most people think intimacy is something we build with someone else.But the foundation of connection is the relationship ...
02/12/2026

Most people think intimacy is something we build with someone else.

But the foundation of connection is the relationship we have with ourselves.

Self-intimacy is not performance. It’s presence.
It’s staying close to your emotions, your body, and what you need, instead of pushing it away.

When we lose that connection, it can show up as numbness, low desire, or going through the motions. Not because you’re broken, but because something in you is asking to be heard.

Desire isn’t only s*xual.
It’s vitality. Creativity. Aliveness.

Explore the full article on self-intimacy, sensory awareness, and deeper self-connection:
https://drshannonchavez.com/the-art-of-self-intimacy-deepening-your-connection-to-yourself/

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A lot of relationship strain is not a “compatibility problem.” It’s capacity.When one relationship is expected to hold r...
02/08/2026

A lot of relationship strain is not a “compatibility problem.” It’s capacity.

When one relationship is expected to hold romance, best friendship, co-parenting, emotional regulation, logistics, intimacy, identity, and belonging, the system overloads. Burnout follows. Desire drops. Resentment grows.

A moment that captured this perfectly: a married mom went viral on TikTok for looking for another straight mom friendship. Not an affair. A real support bond, shared experiences, and intentional space to breathe. That post resonated because it named something many people feel quietly.

Platonic partnership is not “settling.” It’s often designing support on purpose:
🧠🌿 spreading needs across community
🫶🏽🧩 protecting autonomy without disconnecting
🧳✨ making space for rest, not performance
🏡🤝 letting love be steady, not exhausting

If you’ve felt guilty for wanting space, more friendship, or a fuller support system, that guilt might be cultural conditioning, not truth.

Explore my full article on platonic partnerships, autonomy, desire, and modern relationship design:

https://drshannonchavez.com/rethinking-relationships-why-platonic-partnerships-are-trending/

Some of the strongest relationships aren’t romantic, they’re supportive.So many people feel pressure to make one relatio...
02/08/2026

Some of the strongest relationships aren’t romantic, they’re supportive.

So many people feel pressure to make one relationship carry every role: partner, best friend, co-parent, emotional anchor, travel buddy, and home base. That’s a lot for any one bond, and it often creates burnout instead of connection.

Platonic partnerships remind us that love can be friendship, chosen family, community, and care that’s consistent, honest, and sustainable.

Explore my full article, including the research context and practical takeaways, in “Rethinking Relationships: Why Platonic Partnerships Are Trending”:

https://drshannonchavez.com/rethinking-relationships-why-platonic-partnerships-are-trending/

February can make love feel like a deadline. More romance. More passion. More proof that things are “good.” But healthy ...
02/05/2026

February can make love feel like a deadline. More romance. More passion. More proof that things are “good.” But healthy connection isn’t built on pressure. It’s built on safety, choice, and support that your nervous system can actually receive.

Modern love in 2026 is also more diverse than the old scripts. Some people are redefining partnership structures. Others are rebuilding intimacy after burnout. And many are realizing that desire doesn’t disappear because something is “wrong,” but because the body is carrying too much. Research and clinical insights from the Gottman Institute, the American Psychological Association, and Pew Research help explain why.

A grounded February check-in:

🧩 Autonomy: Do I still feel like myself in this relationship?
🫶 Emotional safety: Do I feel understood, not managed?
🧠 Stress + desire: Is my body asking for rest, not performance?
🧭 Values: Are my relationship choices mine, or inherited expectations?
🤝 Support: Do I have community beyond romance?

I explore this more fully in my article “Five Things to Reflect on This February,” including emotional safety, autonomy, stress and desire, evolving relationship structures, and the protective role of friendship and community:

https://drshannonchavez.com/five-things-to-reflect-on-this-february/

February tends to spotlight romance and intensity. But sustainable relationships are less about constant passion and mor...
02/04/2026

February tends to spotlight romance and intensity. But sustainable relationships are less about constant passion and more about emotional responsiveness. When people feel emotionally safe, desire and connection have room to breathe.

That’s why this matters: emotional safety sustains connection more than constant passion. ✨
Chemistry can spark quickly. Safety is what lets you soften, stay open, and actually receive love.

A gentle check-in:
🫶 Do I feel emotionally safe here?
🧠 Is stress shaping my capacity for intimacy right now?
🌿 Do I feel supported beyond this relationship too?

Explore my full article on modern love, emotional safety, stress, and intimacy this February:
https://drshannonchavez.com/five-things-to-reflect-on-this-february/

Many people stay quiet during pleasure for lots of reasons, like habit, self-consciousness, or not knowing what to do wi...
01/31/2026

Many people stay quiet during pleasure for lots of reasons, like habit, self-consciousness, or not knowing what to do with sound. But voice and breath can be a powerful way to help your body relax, release tension, and feel more connected to sensation.

Try a comfort zone practice:
Start small with an exhale, a sigh, a hum, then build from there. No performance, just permission.

Try it for 20 seconds and notice what shifts.

✨ Explore more s-x therapy-informed tools for pleasure, arousal, and nervous system regulation in the Article Library, and download the Male + Female Pleasure Guides:

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https://drshannonchavez.com/articles/

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A Mind-Body Approach to S*xual Health and Wellness

Dr. Shannon Chavez has a private practice in Beverly Hills, California that focuses on s*xual health and wellness for individuals and couples. She has a mind-body approach to overcoming s*xual concerns and improving s*xual satisfaction. Her model teaches s*xual empowerment, mindfulness, and how to improve s*xual health to benefit overall health and well-being.