Peter H. Anderson, LMFT

02/19/2026

Cut off is often so much more dynamic and complex than just a single explanation.

02/18/2026

Membership for people of cutoff. Join us tonight @ 6 pm EST. https://stan.store/peterandersonlmft/p/parents-navigating-family-cutoff

02/17/2026

Are you about to date a borderline?

02/13/2026

Did you know that trauma actually does not necessarily cause PTSD?

02/11/2026

Contempt will do a lot of damage and not only your relationship, but also to your heart.

02/09/2026

02/09/2026

Hi everyone, I am holding a Question and Answer tonight for our members of cutoff. Here's the link! Feel free to join us at 4:30 EST! This class will be more casual and a time to answer questions.

Regular class will be on Wed at 6 EST. This class will be more in-depth and teaching. Please join!!!

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02/07/2026

Men don’t avoid intimacy. They avoid humiliation.

02/05/2026

This is how politics has undermine therapy. It’s not our calling!

02/04/2026

Don’t get caught up for in a game where you have to take accountability for everything.

02/04/2026

Have you been cut off? I want to offer you a community with psychoeducation, community support, and some more in-depth techniques that can help you. It’s every Wednesday night.

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02/04/2026

An earlier post concerned spending your estranged child's inheritance as a retirement plan. An angry EC posted a comment on that discussion saying that the inheritance should go to the estranged child's children and said it was selfish if we didn't provide for their education. She was so nasty that I had to block her. Doing as she suggests opens a whole new can of worms If the EC's children get $ but the other grandchildren get nothing. Why should we disinherit our other children and give their portion to their children simply because their sibling chose to estrange? Estrangement makes it impossible to be fair to everyone.
Some of us have put money aside for our grandchildren over the years of estrangement. But then we're rejected by them as adults because their parents have taught them to hate us. So what are we supposed to do when we can't get past the parental blockade to have a relationship with our alienated grandchildren as adults? Estrangement creates an impossible situation for parents when it comes to estate planning. No matter what we do someone is going to be upset with the decisions we make. In the long run the children of the estranged child may be the ones who suffer because we choose to provide for the children who loved us and included us in their lives while the EC ignored us. We're not the ones who chose this path for our family, our EC made that decision. If we don't know our grandchildren and they don't know us why should we leave a large portion of our estate to total strangers? If blood is so important to the EC when it comes to an inheritance why is it irrelevant when it comes to a relationship with our grandchildren?