Peter H. Anderson, LMFT

02/05/2026

This is how politics has undermine therapy. It’s not our calling!

02/04/2026

Don’t get caught up for in a game where you have to take accountability for everything.

02/04/2026

Have you been cut off? I want to offer you a community with psychoeducation, community support, and some more in-depth techniques that can help you. It’s every Wednesday night.

https://stan.store/peterandersonlmft/p/parents-navigating-family-cutoff?fbclid=IwY2xjawPwZKJleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFmN0w2M29NaGdzOHRzWXhZc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHkBsfhyQxmULC2c_ZEO010ENR_VtHjA7FAzYbR0XVoAspaXbsIz91O0Uie6B_aem_LszyinoYpUlsHtx9mQJXGA

02/04/2026

An earlier post concerned spending your estranged child's inheritance as a retirement plan. An angry EC posted a comment on that discussion saying that the inheritance should go to the estranged child's children and said it was selfish if we didn't provide for their education. She was so nasty that I had to block her. Doing as she suggests opens a whole new can of worms If the EC's children get $ but the other grandchildren get nothing. Why should we disinherit our other children and give their portion to their children simply because their sibling chose to estrange? Estrangement makes it impossible to be fair to everyone.
Some of us have put money aside for our grandchildren over the years of estrangement. But then we're rejected by them as adults because their parents have taught them to hate us. So what are we supposed to do when we can't get past the parental blockade to have a relationship with our alienated grandchildren as adults? Estrangement creates an impossible situation for parents when it comes to estate planning. No matter what we do someone is going to be upset with the decisions we make. In the long run the children of the estranged child may be the ones who suffer because we choose to provide for the children who loved us and included us in their lives while the EC ignored us. We're not the ones who chose this path for our family, our EC made that decision. If we don't know our grandchildren and they don't know us why should we leave a large portion of our estate to total strangers? If blood is so important to the EC when it comes to an inheritance why is it irrelevant when it comes to a relationship with our grandchildren?

02/02/2026

Hi everyone—
I’ve created a membership community specifically for parents navigating the pain and confusion of family cutoff. This is a supportive, therapist-led space where we meet live on Zoom every Wednesday at 6:00 PM!

Each week we'll include 30 minutes (or more) of practical, in-depth therapeutic tools, followed by time to address more complex questions and real-life situations. Just as important, this community is designed to help you feel less alone by connecting with others who truly understand what you’re facing.
I’ve intentionally made this membership affordable and accessible, because no parent should have to carry this alone.
If you’re looking for clarity, grounded guidance, and a collaborative space to heal and move forward, I’d love for you to join us.

👉 Join the membership here:

Get exclusive how-to tips, weekly check ins and live webinar with me!

02/02/2026

Why do we suffer? Fusion and emotional avoidance.

02/01/2026

To the grieving parents of cutoff.

02/01/2026

Hi everyone, I just launched my Stan Store, where you can get immediate access to practical, therapist-designed resources to help you strengthen the foundation of your relationship, repair trust after betrayal or affairs, and handle conflict without destroying connection.

These short, easy-to-apply guides teach you how healthy relationships actually work, what to do when emotions run high, and how to rebuild safety, respect, and closeness when things feel fragile.

If you’re tired of spinning your wheels in the same arguments, this is for you. Hope you enjoy!

But, if ANYONE cannot afford these prices, DM me. I care more about you than the money. I just need to pay for overhead here. haha

https://stan.store/peterandersonlmft?fbclid=IwY2xjawPsgCJleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFicHRNOEJ0Vk1EUWtaQ2Exc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHjbt1nCj6ZJ_ziLZPoYkKg9dLEYxLCjK02XIvHx8QWoG4BtUsDfQdB-oWdE-_aem_ECtZhDpQ0-kdMLAg7ukyfA

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01/31/2026

The Myths of Trauma.

01/29/2026

Just because your kid does not talk to you anymore does not mean you’re a bad parent. That’s a false cause fallacy.