02/12/2026
Relationships have a way of bringing out our most protective instincts, especially when getting close feels risky. Maybe you pull away when things get too real, avoid hard conversations, or find yourself constantly needing reassurance. These are usually things we learned early on to protect ourselves. But here’s the thing: once you notice these patterns, you can start changing the ones that aren’t working for you anymore.
Real connection takes curiosity about your partner, honest communication, and the willingness to repair when things go sideways. With Valentine’s Day coming up, it’s easy to focus on the romantic stuff. But honestly? The strongest relationships are built through small, intentional changes over time.
Whether it’s leaning on your support system, doing some self-reflection, or working with a therapist (together or on your own), you can shift those old patterns into healthier ways of showing up for each other. Start by picking one small action you can take this week to support your relationship in a new way.