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12/16/2025

Your friendly reminder this Tuesday afternoon 🌞🌞🌞

12/16/2025

Morning funny 😄 happy Tuesday!

12/12/2025

One more day guys 🤣 Happy Friday!

12/07/2025

Please read! All unhealthy behavior stems from some emotional dis-ease. And we learn at an early age how to handle dis-ease (avoidance vs connection).

⚠️ Here’s the psychology behind it:

0 to 2 years: The foundation of your attachment system

This is the most critical window of development.

At this age, your brain is learning:
• “Is the world safe?”
• “Do people come when I cry?”
• “Is love predictable or unpredictable?”
• “Are my emotions soothed or ignored?”

And the answers don’t come from words, they come from experience:
• a caregiver’s tone of voice
• facial expressions
• how quickly they respond
• whether they comfort or dismiss
• whether they’re consistent or unpredictable

Your nervous system forms its first blueprint here. And it follows you into adulthood.

2 to 7 years: The subconscious absorbs EVERYTHING

A child in this stage lives in theta brainwave state, meaning they don’t question experiences… they absorb them as truth.

This is where patterns form around:
• how emotions are handled
• how conflict is handled
• whether needs are allowed
• whether vulnerability is safe
• what love “looks like”

Psychology shows that patterns like:
• people-pleasing
• fawning
• shutting down
• perfectionism
• emotional avoidance
• anxious or avoidant attachment

…all begin here.

Not because the child chose them but because these patterns helped them survive.

7 to 12 years: Identity and core beliefs take shape

Now children begin forming meaning:
• “Who am I?”
• “How should I be in relationships?”
• “Is it safe to express myself?”
• “Do people care how I feel?”

This is where deep beliefs are internalized, such as:
• “I’m too much.”
• “I have to be strong.”
• “No one listens to me.”
• “My feelings don’t matter.”
• “Love feels like anxiety.”
• “Needing someone makes me unsafe.”

These beliefs don’t disappear.
They become adult patterns, until someone consciously heals them. If you’ve ever wondered why you attract certain people…

why you shut down…
why you fear abandonment…
or why chaos feels like home…
This is why.

Your childhood wrote the script your adulthood is still acting out.

The good news?
What was learned can be unlearned.
What was wired can be rewired.
And healing is absolutely possible.

If this speaks to you and you want to understand your patterns on a deeper level,
you can explore more resources here: https://linktr.ee/traumatorecovery

11/26/2025

The office is closed tomorrow. Happy Thanksgiving 🙂

11/25/2025

With the first snow settling in, winter can feel both magical and overwhelming. As the days get colder and shorter, it’s more important than ever to take care of your mental health. Here are a few simple reminders to help you stay grounded and supported this season.

11/19/2025

If you've ever been interested in reducing stress and improving resilience, I highly recommend looking into heart rate variability training. It's an easy tool to use for a few minutes a day to improve emotion regulation and train your nervous system to rebound quickly from stress. Managing stress is also a huge part of recovery, research shows that relapse risk is significantly higher during periods of stress.

11/13/2025

As promised 😺

11/12/2025

What are you feeling today? This wheel is very helpful for visualizing the nuances between similar feelings. Getting as specific as possible with that we are feeling helps us to understand the feeling and move through it!

P.S. Tomorrow I will post the cat version of this...stay tuned! 😸

11/11/2025

11/08/2025

How are we feeling about the first snow?