Bixby- South Tulsa Funeral Service & Crematory

02/20/2026

What a remarkable man! The family of James McClure invites you to join them at 1 PM Friday to celebrate his life in the Rivercrest Chapel.

Read the obituary of James Verlin McClure from Bixby, OK. Leave your condolences and send flowers to the family to show you care.

02/16/2026

If you don’t know how to feel when you’re grieving, you’re correct.

Yes, that statement may sound a little odd, but it’s based on the fact that there’s plenty that we don’t know about the human grieving process.

For the past few decades, mental health experts theorized that we all follow a five-stage process that involves denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and ultimately acceptance. This isn’t necessarily about death, but anything that involves a significant, emotional loss.

However, more and more research is showing that grief isn’t a linear process at all, and it’s possible to go back and forth on all of these feelings, and there’s also no timeline from start to finish either.

So that can mean a couple of things. People who have experienced death – especially something recent and unexpected – may be dealing with all the emotions, sometimes all at once. They may not know what they’re feeling, and sometimes some emotions may mimic or trigger others, such as depression and anger.

Each person may be different in how they deal with these emotions as well. They may seem calm and focused during some discussions but may have a breakdown later. Also, family members may grieve differently – one person may be stuck in the anger stage while others are full of sadness.

This crisscross of feelings makes it especially important to work with someone, such as a funeral director, who can stay calm while recognizing that everyone is going through their unique grief journey. He or she can visit with people at their own level, help them make sometimes tough decisions, and maybe even serve as a referee, or at least offer an objective, neutral view in the event of differing opinions between family members or other loved ones.

Bixby Funeral Home has been helping families in the Bixby and Greater Tulsa area since 1983. We’re always glad to validate what people are feeling and tell them it’s OK what they’re experiencing. Although everyone grieves differently, there are common ways that it can be expressed as well as plenty of resources in our community to get help.

02/14/2026

Honoring the legendary guitar player Thomas Crook today in the Rivercrest Chapel.

Read the obituary of Thomas Paul Crook from Bixby, OK. Leave your condolences and send flowers to the family to show you care.

02/14/2026

The role of a funeral director is to help family members and loved ones when death occurs. This can include everything from practical matters like getting their remains ready for burial or cremation to finding them an appropriate final resting place.

Funeral directors connect with local cemeteries, churches, and other community venues. They are considered trusted resources, and some funeral homes have been around for years in their local communities so the directors have helped generations of family members get through difficult times.

A funeral director can also assist with other duties like creating an obituary and offering expertise in organizing a memorial service. Because so many cultures and religions have different types of gatherings, he or she works with family members and local spiritual leaders to come up with an appropriate, individualized way to say good-bye.

Most modern funeral directors have on-the-job training as well as some sort of advanced academic credentials. College degree programs in funerary sciences teach all aspects of the industry, from the psychology of dealing with grieving people at a challenging time, to the business side, including the different death and burial products available, everything from caskets to urns.

A funeral director has the important role of being trusted as a guide during a particularly difficult point in someone’s life.
Family members want someone who is helpful, patient, and calm, and can answer questions as well as seek answers.

They know that things can be overwhelming but also know that loved ones want to do something unique. An appointment with a funeral director can cover everything from what clothes the deceased will wear to what music can be played.

Funeral directors encourage families to take care of some of these items in advance, but realize that doesn’t always happen, so they may�

To learn more about our role and training, please visit https://bit.ly/4aqE37H

02/09/2026

Even if you were aware that death was coming, such as in a hospice setting, it’s still a tough blow when it does happen. No matter the circumstances, you’ll likely feel overwhelmed with all sorts of emotions. Your to-do list just exploded and it may hurt so much trying to think about moving forward through life without this person in it.

Grief hits everyone differently, and plenty of feelings may be cycling. You may feel calm and clear-headed one minute and unable to form words or make a decision. It may be hard to think about what you’re supposed to be doing and feeling now or later.

Bixby Funeral Home has worked with plenty of individuals and families in these situations, so we know that it’s easy to feel overwhelmed with everything that’s happening. Some people have also been raised to always be stoic and keep their emotions bottled up, a strategy that unfortunately doesn’t always work well in these difficult circumstances. Others may want to stay calm so not to upset other family members. What we like to tell people is “its OK!” Part of being respectful is to allow people to grieve. When meeting with family members to discuss arrangements, pushing people is the last thing we do.

Since 1983, we’ve been working with grieving families in our community so we’re always patient and professional. We have no problem pausing our discussions if you need to step outside or have a good cry. We may even have sone laughs together when appropriate if you want to share fun memories. We enjoy hearing what was special about your loved one, which could guide us in helping you make a choice in things like urns or headstones.

Most of our clients haven’t had a lot of experience dealing with death, so they’re not quite sure what to say, how to act, or what to do next. But since this is what we do – every day – we’re happy to provide guidance and different options and reassure them that what they’re going through is normal and we’ll be glad to help.

02/09/2026

On behalf of the Slack family, we invite you to join us at 2 PM today in the Rivercrest Chapel or visit our website for the livestream.

Read the obituary of Jerry Norval Slack from Bixby, OK. Leave your condolences and send flowers to the family to show you care.

02/08/2026

Today we celebrate the life of Nancy Landis from the Rivercrest Chapel.

Read the obituary of Nancy Sue Landis from Bixby, OK. Leave your condolences and send flowers to the family to show you care.

02/07/2026

The Bixby-South Tulsa area lost a remarkable man. On behalf of the Melby family, thank you to all who gathered yesterday at St. James Church to celebrate his life. It was certainly well lived!

Read the obituary of Kurt Ross Melby from Bixby, OK. Leave your condolences and send flowers to the family to show you care.

02/03/2026

Our culture generally doesn’t want to think about death. Unfortunately, this view can sometimes create challenges when death inevitably occurs, especially when it’s a loved one. There can even be sense of panic about what happens next – not so much the bigger metaphysical questions about the afterlife, but practical matters like funeral planning and similar arrangements.

Fortunately, Bixby Funeral Home has been helping families in the Bixby and Greater Tulsa area respectfully answer these questions since 1983.

The first step is simply to call us or visit https://bit.ly/4aqE37H and click “Immediate Need” and we can point you in the right direction. We know it’s a scary time and you may not feel prepared, whatever the situation. We’ll be happy to discuss transportation of your loved one’s remains, and then schedule an appointment to go over the big and small details of how you want to remember them.

We promise to be respectful as well as practical while we outline our various services. While we certainly encourage families to make some of these arrangements before death occurs, we know this doesn’t always happen. This means people may be trying to deal with their recent loss while making what can feel like difficult decisions about unfamiliar topics.

As a trusted community resource, we encourage people to stay as calm as possible and let us offer our expertise. As we learn more about you and your loved one, we can discuss various options such as burial or cremation. Then we can talk about services and ways that their friends and family can gather and say good-bye, such as a church, our facility, or another special place.

The hours after death occurs can be confusing, even frightening, and people often feel paralyzed with everything that’s happening. But with guidance and kindness from an experienced funeral home, we can help reduce your stress and assist you in providing suitable options to honor their memory.

Visit https://bit.ly/4aqE37H to learn more.

01/30/2026

On behalf of the Hasz family, we invite you to join us 10 AM Saturday in the Rivercrest Chapel to celebrate Gary’s remarkable life.

Read the obituary of Gary Lee Hasz from Bixby, OK. Leave your condolences and send flowers to the family to show you care.

01/30/2026

Cremation can be a meaningful and personal way to honor a life. We take time to explain the process clearly and respectfully, ensuring every choice reflects care, dignity, and your family’s wishes.

01/28/2026

When you are choosing a funeral home, the experiences of other families can be very comforting.

At Bixby Funeral Service, we are honored by the kind words shared by the families we have served. Their reviews reflect our commitment to compassion, clear communication, and personal attention.

Reading their stories can help you understand what it feels like to work with our team during some of life’s hardest moments.

Many families mention feeling cared for, heard, and supported from the first phone call through the service and beyond. If you are wondering whether Bixby is the right fit for your family, their words may help you decide.