Sonder Counseling

04/28/2026

Anxious attachment loves deeply, cares fiercely, and has definitely drafted a text it didn't send. Several, actually. 📱

If this is your style, you already know. You're the person who:
→ Refreshes your texts with the urgency of someone waiting on medical results
→ Reads a three-minute response delay like it's a doctoral thesis
→ Picks a fight about the dishes at 10pm when what you actually need is to feel close again

And underneath all of it? Usually a belief that sounds like: "I am too much, or not enough, and eventually people figure that out and leave."

That belief is not the truth. It's a story your nervous system built a very long time ago when it was trying to protect you.

Anxious attachment is workable. Save this if you needed to hear that today. 💛

Part 3 of our attachment series — full post at sondercounseling.com/blog 🔗

04/21/2026

Secure attachment is the goal. Not because securely attached people are perfect — but because they've figured out how to be imperfect together. 🌱

Here's what it actually looks like:
✔ They communicate needs directly
✔ They don't catastrophize when someone takes a while to text back
✔ They can be close without losing themselves
✔ They repair after conflict instead of needing to win it

And the most important thing? You don't have to have had a perfect childhood to get here. Earned secure attachment is real — and therapy is one of the most direct paths to it.

Swipe for the full breakdown 👆

Part 2 of our 6-part attachment series. Full blog post at sondercounseling.com/blog 🔗

04/14/2026

Why do you text back immediately and then hate yourself for it? Why do you need three days of space after a close conversation? Why do you always end up with emotionally unavailable people?

Your attachment style has opinions. 👀

Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, says that the way you learned to relate to your earliest caregivers becomes the blueprint your brain uses for all close relationships going forward.

There are 4 styles. Swipe to meet them. 👆

We're kicking off a 6-part series on attachment- covering each style and what happens when different styles end up in relationships together. Save this one, it's the start of something.

🔗 Full blog post at https://www.sondercounseling.com/blog/why-you-love-the-way-you-love-attachment-styles

03/26/2026

"I want to be healthier" is not a goal. It's a wish. 🙋

SMART goals turn vague intentions into actual plans — and from a mental health perspective, they work because they give your brain something concrete to grab onto.

We broke it down on the blog — what each letter means, why it matters, and how to make it fit your real life.

Link in bio → sondercounseling.com

03/25/2026

Raise your hand if you've ever set a goal and abandoned it by week two. 🙋

You're not lazy. Your goal probably just wasn't built to survive.

SMART goals are a simple framework that turns vague intentions into actual plans — and from a mental health perspective, they work because they remove the guesswork and give your brain something concrete to follow.

We broke it all down on the blog — what each letter means, why it matters, and how to make it work for your real life (not just a Pinterest board).

👉 Read it at sondercounseling.com

And if goal-setting itself feels overwhelming? That's worth talking about too. 💙

03/20/2026

“Don’t do it.”
“But I want to.”
“Your therapist will find out.”..fine. 🐾

We love a client who does the work between sessions. 👏

And if you can’t resist the toxic? That’s what we’re here for. 📲 Link in bio — sondercounseling.com

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03/17/2026

Raise your hand if you've ever waited to "feel motivated" before doing the thing. 🙋

Here's the twist — motivation usually shows up AFTER you start, not before. And if you're running on empty no matter what you try, that might be worth paying attention to.

We just published a fun (and surprisingly honest) guide to getting unstuck — covering what actually works from a mental health perspective.

No toxic positivity. No "just believe in yourself." Just real strategies with a little humor mixed in.

👉 Read it here: https://www.sondercounseling.com/blog/so-youve-decided-to-get-motivated-bold-move

And if the motivation stuff feels like something bigger — we're here for that too. 💙

A therapist-approved guide for getting off the couch — mostly Motivation is a lot like that one friend who says they'll "definitely show up" to help you move — enthusiastic in theory, suspiciously absent when it counts. The good news? You don't have to wait for motivation to arrive befor

03/17/2026

The 5 minute rule is one of the most commonly recommended quick tips I give to my clients.

Often times, the hardest part of doing a task is simply getting started. This works because it creates a low commitment task that is harder to talk yourself out of.

Doing all my laundry? Forget it. Sorting through my clothes? Okay, I can probably do that. Then there is the added bonus because I will probably throw a load into the washer and now I have some momentum and motivation.

This works on chores, exercise, and starting that project you keep talking about but not actually doing.

Check out our blog to learn more motivation hacks.
https://www.sondercounseling.com/blog

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03/08/2026

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If you’ve ever sat down to work on something meaningful—writing, building a business, creating art, starting a project, doing anything that creates anxiety—and somehow ended up doom scrolling your phone, reorganizing you...

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03/01/2026

“Okay but why does being five minutes late feel like I’m fighting for survival?”

Because your nervous system doesn’t know the difference between ‘I’m late’ and ‘I’m in danger.’

When you rush, your body releases adrenaline.
Adrenaline makes your heart race, your breathing change, your body tense up.

Then your brain goes,
‘Wow. We feel terrible. Something must be wrong.’

So it releases more adrenaline.

Congratulations. You’re in the anxiety feedback loop.

But here’s the cool part.

If you slow your body down — like actually slow it down —
longer breaths, slower movements, pausing before you respond…

your nervous system starts to get the message:

‘Oh. We’re safe.’

You can’t be in full fight-or-flight and fully calm at the same time.

One turns the other off.

If this hit a little too close to home, we wrote a full blog about it.
You can read it through the link in our bio.

And if you’re ready to stop living in emergency mode,
you can book a therapy appointment on our website too.

No bears. Just support.