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RN & Coach helping anxiety and stress management for women and LGBTQIA+ individuals

Sheila, your coach, is a Registered Nurse and Board Certified as a Holistic Nurse Coach serving women and LGBTQIA+ individuals to help manage anxiety and stress.

02/24/2026

This February, let’s retire the idea that love follows a predictable path: meet, date, fall in love, commit, live happily ever after with zero complications.
Real love is messy. It ebbs and flows. It has seasons of deep connection and seasons of parallel living. It includes doubt, repair, growth, setbacks, and breakthroughs.
Your anxiety might tell you that struggle means failure. That if it were “right,” it would be easier. But the truth is more nuanced. Some struggle indicates incompatibility. Some indicates growth edges. Learning the difference is the work.
Whether you’re single and healing, dating and nervous, committed and navigating challenges, or somewhere in between—you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be in your love story.
Stop judging your chapter against someone else’s entire book. Stop rushing toward the next milestone because you think you should be further along. Stop letting anxiety write the narrative.
Love—of yourself, of others, of life itself—is not linear. It’s cyclical, seasonal, sometimes forwards and sometimes circling back to heal what was missed the first time.
Trust your timing. Trust your process. Trust that wherever you are is exactly enough for today.

02/23/2026

Here’s something anxiety gets backwards: a relationship that triggers you isn’t necessarily wrong, and a relationship that feels calm isn’t necessarily right.
Sometimes anxiety spikes in healthy relationships because you’re actually letting someone close enough to matter. The stakes are real, the vulnerability is genuine, and your nervous system is adjusting to unfamiliar safety.
And sometimes you feel “calm” in a relationship because you’re emotionally checked out, keeping walls up, or choosing someone who doesn’t challenge your avoidant patterns.
The question isn’t “Does this relationship make me anxious?” It’s “Is my anxiety a response to actual problems or to unhealed patterns? Is this person showing up consistently, communicating clearly, and treating me with respect? Am I willing to work through discomfort for something real?”
Not all anxiety is a red flag. Sometimes it’s growing pains. Sometimes it’s your system learning to trust. Sometimes it’s old protection mechanisms resisting exactly what you’ve been asking for.
Before you run from a good thing because it feels scary, get curious. Talk to your therapist. Journal it out. Distinguish between intuition and fear.
Sometimes the right relationship feels intense because it actually matters. Don’t confuse intensity with incompatibility.

02/20/2026

Plot twist: the right person won’t avoid all your triggers. They’ll just handle them better when they happen.
Anxiety loves to tell you that if someone really loved you, you wouldn’t feel triggered. If they were truly your person, everything would feel easy. This is fantasy, not reality.
Real, lasting love means two imperfect people learning each other’s tender spots and choosing to be careful with them—most of the time. Not perfectly, not always, but consistently enough to build trust.
You’ll still get triggered. They’ll still accidentally say something that hits an old wound. You’ll still have moments of doubt, fear, or emotional flooding. That’s not a sign you’re with the wrong person—it’s a sign you’re human in relationship with another human.
The difference is in repair. Do they listen when you share what hurt? Do they adjust their behavior? Do they make space for your feelings without making you feel like a burden? Do you do the same for them?
Stop searching for someone who never activates your anxiety. Start looking for someone who’s willing to navigate it with you, to learn and grow together, to show up even when it’s uncomfortable.
That’s the relationship worth building.

02/18/2026

Being in love doesn’t mean your mental health is suddenly sorted. Your partner’s support doesn’t replace professional help. And needing help while in a relationship isn’t a sign that the relationship isn’t working.
Sometimes love actually brings more to the surface. Old wounds get activated. Attachment patterns emerge. Past hurts resurface in new contexts. This is normal—and it’s exactly why therapy/coaching matters.
Your partner can be supportive, but they can’t be your therapist or coach. They can hold space for you, but they can’t heal you. They can love you through hard times, but they shouldn’t be responsible for managing your mental health.
Therapy/Coaching gives you tools your partner simply can’t provide: objective perspective, clinical expertise, a space that’s entirely yours without worrying about burdening someone you love.
Going to therapy or coaching isn’t giving up on your relationship—it’s investing in it. It’s taking responsibility for your healing so your relationship can be about connection, not constant crisis management.
If you’ve been putting off therapy/coaching because “things are good now” or because you feel guilty investing time away from your partner, this is your sign. Love yourself and your relationship enough to get the support you need.

02/16/2026

“What if they leave me?”
“What if I’m not enough?”
“What if this doesn’t work out?”
Anxiety loves to pull you out of the present moment and drop you into a catastrophic future that hasn’t happened and may never happen.
When you’re constantly scanning for signs of the end, you’re not actually experiencing the relationship you’re in right now. You’re living in a hypothetical breakup while your partner is right there, trying to connect with you.
This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending problems don’t exist. It’s about distinguishing between real issues that need addressing and anxiety creating problems that don’t exist yet.
Try this: When you catch yourself future-tripping, pause. Ask yourself, “What is actually happening right now in this moment?” Look for evidence of what IS, not what MIGHT BE. Bring yourself back to sensory experience—what you can see, hear, touch, smell. Ground in the present.
The future will unfold regardless of how much you worry about it. But your present is slipping by while you’re elsewhere. Come back. Your relationship needs you here, now, not lost in tomorrow’s imagined disasters.

02/14/2026

Your anxiety wants you to believe that being single on Valentine’s Day means something is wrong with you. That everyone else has figured out something you haven’t. That you’re falling behind, running out of time, somehow failing at life.
None of this is true.
Being single isn’t a problem to solve or a gap to fill. It’s a legitimate, valuable life phase that deserves more respect than panic and desperation.
You’re not “still” single. You’re single right now, and that’s complete as it is. You’re not broken, unlovable, or too damaged. You’re a whole person navigating your own timeline, not anyone else’s.
The cultural pressure around February is designed to make you feel insufficient so you’ll buy things. Don’t internalize capitalism’s marketing strategy as personal failure.
Use this time: Get to know yourself without compromising. Build the life you want to invite someone into, not the life you need someone to complete. Heal the patterns that haven’t served you. Learn what you actually want versus what you’ve been told you should want.
The right relationship will come when it comes. Rushing it from a place of anxiety and lack only attracts the wrong fit.
You’re not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be.

02/13/2026

February is brutal for comparison. Everyone’s posting their perfect date nights, flower deliveries, and romantic getaways while you’re managing relationship anxiety or navigating singleness.
Here’s your reminder: Instagram is a highlight reel, not a documentary. Those “perfect” couples? They have hard conversations, misunderstandings, and moments of doubt too. They’re just not posting those.
Comparison with others distracts you from what actually matters: Is your relationship (or lack thereof) aligned with what you want and need? Are you growing, healing, and moving toward the life you want to build?
Single and anxious about it? You’re not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be for your journey.
In a relationship but it doesn’t look Instagram-worthy? That doesn’t make it less valuable. Quiet, steady love is just as real as grand gestures.
Struggling in your relationship? That’s not failure—that’s the actual work of love.
Stop measuring your path against someone else’s edited version. Your story doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s to be beautiful, meaningful, or enough.

02/11/2026

Knowing your love language is helpful. Understanding how anxiety distorts it? That’s game-changing.
Words of Affirmation + Anxiety = needing constant verbal reassurance and interpreting silence as disinterest.
Quality Time + Anxiety = feeling abandoned when your partner has other priorities or needs alone time.
Physical Touch + Anxiety = reading into every physical distance, feeling unloved when touch decreases during stress.
Acts of Service + Anxiety = keeping score, feeling neglected when tasks aren’t done “right” or on your timeline.
Receiving Gifts + Anxiety = over-analyzing the meaning behind every gift (or lack thereof), feeling forgotten on small occasions.
The solution isn’t to ignore your love language—it’s to notice when anxiety is amplifying your needs to unsustainable levels. It’s learning to self-regulate while still communicating what matters to you.
Your needs are valid. And also, your partner can’t be your only source of emotional regulation. Both things are true.
What’s your love language, and how does anxiety show up around it?

02/09/2026

Your partner says they love you. Your anxiety says they’re lying.
They text back immediately. Your anxiety says they’re only doing it out of obligation.
They want space for themselves. Your anxiety translates it as rejection.
Sound familiar?
Anxiety in relationships acts like a translator with a pessimism bias. It takes neutral or even positive information and filters it through worst-case scenarios. It’s trying to protect you from hurt, but instead it’s creating the very distance you fear.
Here’s what helps: Name it. “My anxiety is telling me you’re pulling away, but I want to check in with reality. How are you actually feeling about us?” Create agreements. Ask your partner what reassurance looks like for them, and share what you need to feel secure. Challenge the story. Write down the anxious thought, then list evidence for and against it. Sit with discomfort. Not every anxious feeling requires immediate action or reassurance.
Your anxiety isn’t the enemy—but it also isn’t the truth-teller. Learning the difference is relationship-changing work.

02/06/2026

“Love yourself first” is well-meaning advice that can actually increase anxiety for some people.
Because what if you’re still learning to like yourself? What if self-love feels impossible on hard days? Does that mean you don’t deserve connection until you’ve figured it all out?
Here’s a gentler truth: self-love and receiving love from others can happen simultaneously. They often grow together, not in sequence.
Sometimes being loved well teaches you how to love yourself. Seeing yourself through someone else’s caring eyes can soften the harsh critic in your head. And sometimes loving yourself makes space to receive love without sabotaging it.
Stop waiting to be “ready.” Stop demanding perfection from yourself before you open your heart. Love—both given and received—is part of the healing, not just the reward after healing is complete.
You’re worthy of love right now, in this messy, imperfect, still-figuring-it-out stage. The work continues regardless. But you don’t have to do it alone.

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