I specialize in the treatment of anxiety, burnout, and mood disorders in adults.
12/19/2025
A gentle reminder:
People-pleasing often isn’t about wanting approval.
It’s about wanting safety.
Safety in relationships.
Safety from conflict.
Safety from disappointing someone you care about.
If you notice yourself over-explaining, over-giving, or saying yes when your body says no, pause and try this reframe:
“This part of me learned to stay connected by being accommodating.”
You don’t need to shame it.
You can thank it. And slowly teach it that connection doesn’t require self-erasure.
Rest is allowed.
So is choosing yourself.
The people meant to stay will meet you where you are, not where you overextend.
12/08/2025
The line between self-care and escapism comes down to whether the activity restores you or just delays facing what needs attention.
🛀 Self-care replenishes your capacity to handle life. It might feel indulgent in the moment, but it leaves you more equipped to deal with challenges.
🤳🏻Escapism is about avoiding discomfort rather than recovering from it. The distinguishing feature is that it depletes you or keeps you stuck so you emerge feeling worse, more behind, or with the original issue compounded by guilt or new problems.
The tricky part: the same activity can be either one depending on context and intention. A weekend Apple TV marathon might be genuine rest if you’ve been burning the candle at both ends. Or it might be escapism if you’re using it to avoid dealing with relationship issues.
➡️A useful question to ask yourself: “Will this help me face what I need to face, or is it helping me avoid it?”
Self-care is restorative and eventually moves you forward. Escapism is temporary relief that keeps you running in place.
11/27/2025
Who are you grateful for?
11/19/2025
Which slide resonated most? Drop it below 👇
You’re overwhelmed (and really good at hiding it).
High-functioning overwhelm looks like productivity from the outside. You’re checking off every task, replying to every message, showing up to every commitment with a smile.
But behind the scenes? You’re running on fumes. The people closest to you get whatever’s left (which isn’t much). You break down over the smallest things. And those self-care apps you downloaded? Still collecting digital dust.
💡If you’ve been using ChatGPT as your personal assistant, therapist, and organizing ninja - creating beautiful plans that overwhelm you and prompts that eat up your time … this one’s for you.
You’re not alone in this. And you’re definitely not failing.
💕Share this if you needed the reminder that “having it together” and actually being okay are two very different things.
Which slide resonated most? Drop the number below 👇
11/07/2025
I’ve been noticing this pattern with clients lately - they’re exhausted BY the work of healing. Not because they’re not trying hard enough, but because they’re trying SO hard while already running on empty.
Therapeutic burnout happens when you become both the patient and the clinician in your own life. There’s no clock-out time from monitoring your thoughts, challenging beliefs, and implementing coping skills.
If this resonates, I want you to know: sometimes the most therapeutic thing you can do is to rest (without guilt).
Your therapist can guide you through sustainable approaches for creating change while encouraging intentional breaks along the way.
10/16/2025
If you’ve ever written a 3-paragraph text when ‘I can’t make it’ would’ve been enough… 👇
Over-explaining isn’t always about the other person. Often it’s about our own internal experience with anxiety, past invalidation, or difficulty with boundaries.
Which one resonates most with you?
10/16/2025
What are in your archives?
10/08/2025
The mind wants answers. It wants closure. It wants to understand why so badly that it will replay the same moments over and over, convinced that this time—this time—something will click.
But some questions don’t have answers we can think our way to. Some healing happens not when we finally understand everything, but when we learn to be okay without understanding.
When we stop waiting for the past to make sense before we allow ourselves to move forward.
✨ The present moment doesn’t require you to have it all figured out. It just asks you to be here. 🤍
10/02/2025
Ever feel like you’ve been let down one too many times?
That cycle of raised hopes → broken promises → exhaustion → numbness has a name: Disappointment Burnout.
It’s not just stress — it’s the emotional toll of being disappointed again and again.
💬 Have you felt this kind of burnout before? Share your experience in the comments — you’re not alone.
09/16/2025
We all wear masks sometimes - roles or personas we adopt to cope with anxiety, insecurity, or fear of rejection.
While these masks may feel protective, they can also fuel loneliness, stress, and burnout that keep us from living as our authentic selves.
Letting go of these coping masks creates space for deeper relationships, honest emotions, and true self-expression.
✨ What mask do you notice yourself wearing? Or is there one you’d add to this list? Share in the comments. You might help someone else recognize theirs and feel less alone.
08/27/2025
Boundaries = self-respect.
Read that again. 💛
✨ Of these reminders, which one do you most need to hear today? Drop it in the comments so others can see they’re not alone.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to check out my little home on Facebook! Below is a little more information about my work and background. I know the process of finding a therapist is difficult (to say the least) and am happy to chat with you over the phone to discuss additional details. I invest deeply in my clients (emotionally, personally, intellectually) and place a lot of value in making sure I am the right “fit” for my clients. In our first session, I will thoroughly assess your current symptoms and brainstorm a path forward -- discussing various treatment options based on individual preferences and concerns. I am a big believer in collaboration and work to incorporate other relevant treatment providers into the process whenever possible.
I specialize in the treatment of anxiety and mood disorders in adolescents and adults. I have a particular interest in working with clients on identity development, relationship issues, body image concerns, academic and professional struggles, and perfectionism. I utilize an active collaborative approach with a focus on harnessing each individual's unique strengths. I enjoy integrating acceptance-based cognitive behavioral tools as well as self-compassion and mindfulness into my therapeutic work. I love working with students, professionals, and working parents to chart a course that allows for success at the highest levels as well as personal fulfillment since both are very much possible! Trained in evidence-based techniques at Harvard and the University of Miami, I leverage the latest research findings to individualize treatment plans and optimize outcomes.
I received my undergraduate degree in Psychology from Duke University, graduating summa cm laude. I received a M.A. in Psychology from Harvard University and a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from University of Miami. I completed my predoctoral internship at the University of Miami's Counseling Center and my postdoctoral fellowship at the Center for Treatment of Anxiety and Mood Disorders in Delray Beach, Florida.
I was trained in the treatment of anxiety disorders, including OCD, at the OCD Institute at McLean Hospital (Harvard Medical School), psychoeducational assessment at the Mailman Center for Child Development (University of Miami's School of Medicine), and eating disorders/body image concerns at Oliver-Pyatt Centers in South Miami.
I am a licensed psychologist in the state of Florida (License: PY 10362). My practice is not in network with any insurance companies; however, my office can provide you with a detailed bill after each session that you can then submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement (dependent on your specific insurance plan).
