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01/07/2024

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12/26/2021

Interesting character analysis in this article. Superman’s feeling journey.

What does it take for you to be the best you can be?

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Henry Cavill's Zod explanation is right.

08/15/2020

Growth Provokers is a men’s group and we will be doing an online large group via zoom the first part of September. It will be a panel discussion. Look for the date in a week or so, looking forward we to connecting with a few good men!

01/20/2020

Don't Say "Don't" and Working to be aware of options in every conversation.
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This men's group deals with the core issues of being in a relationship and the emotions that we deal with as a result. These men are committed to the work an...

09/30/2019

Finishing discussion on Fear Monday Morning on Zoom.us comment for pm link.

09/25/2019

The full blog- see you (men) Monday’s at 7:30 am MST

My core shame created this belief that I was not enough, therefore I needed to perform, be perfect in all areas, and do it with such finesse that I would never be “found out” for the fraud I was. This was all unconscious at the time, but as I began to embark on the journey of healing, I came fac...

09/21/2019

Please read for this weeks meeting Monday 7:30 a.m. MST——
This week we need to start by talking about shame. Yes, this is a really different kind of conversation for some of us. As men, we benefit from knowing what shame is and deal with it in our hearts and minds so we can be open about it with those we love and teach our children and our communities to deal with it in love and kindness.

“Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.” Brene Brown, Shame Researcher

Yes, I’m quoting a woman for our men’s group. She has the best work on the s**t that matters most.

In her book Daring Greatly she goes on to say,

“When shame becomes a management style, engagement dies. When failure is not an option we can forget about learning, creativity, and innovation. When it comes to parenting, the practice of framing mothers and fathers as good or bad is both rampant and corrosive—it turns parenting into a shame minefield. The real questions for parents should be: ‘Are you engaged? Are you paying attention?’ If so, plan to make lots of mistakes and bad decisions. Imperfect parenting moments turn into gifts as our children watch us try to figure out what went wrong and how we can do better next time.”

The truth is that I let my shame issues get in the way of my relationship with Marla in the ’90s, and recently I nearly lost it all. I thought i was above it all. The truth is without a connected group of accountable brothers, I let fear and isolation take me down an ugly road. It is so easy to believe the lie that if I share with even my best friends that I will lose something. Yes, when we are accountable and connected in honest ways we only lose isolation, depression, fear, and hate. There is so much fear and hate coming from men these days, we must band together and find better ways! Please do not let the fear of being honest keep you down.

Marla and I have developed the Feeling Wheel 5.0 to help all of us learn better strategies for relationships. Because...well...shame.

The core of the wheel has three feelings: Shame, Forgiveness, and Love. This is the center of all our conflicts. All our behaviors are related to how we deal with these three feelings. Think of Shame as the giant lie that you are not worthy of love. This is why Marla and I put Shame across from Love. It is because it is the only toxic feeling on the
wheel, and it is, in fact, based on a lie; the lie when any person believes that they are a bad person. And because of the nature of Shame, it sticks to other feelings like Fear, Anger, Jealousy and even Peace (worry much?) and Joy (have sexual shame?). All feelings free from shame are healthy feelings. Feelings are raw information. Our brains are highly efficient at making connections with how events in our life make us feel. We then develop strategies and we repeat what gets us what we expect, which is not necessarily the best outcome.

Just outside the core of the wheel are six feelings that we reference as ”modes.” A mode is a pattern of behavior solidified to help us function and communicate. Think of it as an autopilot program that gets activated in certain situations, designed to protect your heart. Most often we don’t think much about doing these things, we just do them often without much conscious thought. These are often packages of behaviors that once served us well and helped us survive, but are now needing to be updated to serve us better.

The question this week is where does your life hurt? What do you avoid? Why? Can you find a pattern of your behavior that is contributing to the pain? Let’s talk about how we can help each other and get better results for our families and communities.
Let’s talk about how we can build better communities.

09/19/2019

It is a man’s responcibility to protect and care for his family, the single most important thing he can do is listen and respect the input of his partner. When a man steps up the world benefits. Why are you holding back, she is asking for you to show up! START NOW!

09/16/2019

09/16/2019

Men’s group Going live here at the half our. Join here or https://zoom.us/j/9736781544

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09/15/2019

No more cages! Here is the zoom link for Monday. We will meet 7:30 to 8:30 a.m MST on Monday’s.

You are invited to a scheduled Zoom meeting.

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09/11/2019

Provoking Growth = Building a Legacy!

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Ready to take charge of your legacy? Join us Mondays at 7:30 am MST.

09/09/2019

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09/06/2019

Growth Provokers Men’s Meeting

09/06/2019

Being a man in today’s world can feel like riding the “crazy train.” Join us live Monday Mornings at 7:30 a.m. here at Growth Provokers! (And get off the crazy train!)

09/06/2019

Get ready for Monday Mornings with the guys.

"You are blinded by how your brain works. We all are. It's hard to see better alternatives than watching your screen for eight to ten hours a day, avoiding people in any real connection, and/or eating poorly. We have discovered for ourselves and others that you cannot make enough changes alone....