11/14/2025
Geez.
Just in the nick of time.
I join in family's journeys where ever they live and wherever they are in their care decisions process.
A family found a "nurse" on one of those typical platforms and was all set to move her in with their loved one because, of course, they are in crisis and totally burned out and want relief.
Thankfully, they saw the value in having me just "double check" their plan.
They didn't know how to interview this "nurse", they did not do a background check, they did not do a drug test, they did not run a copy of her driver's license or insurance to see if she even had a valid driver's license or car insurance. They did not ask about anything that really matters---her experience, how she would handle their mother when their mother is paranoid or sundowning, they did not ask for references, they did not look up their state nursing licensing board to see if there are any dings on her record, etc.
So today, I spoke with this "nurse" to interview her.
She is NOT a nurse, she refused to give consent for a criminal background check, she refused to give consent for drug test.
People who are legit, don't refuse these tests.
Now I am helping the family with finding legit care for their vulnerable adult and working on longer term care plan for if/when aging at home is not affordable, manageable, or safe.
Families are in unchartered territory and often make very expensive and dangerous mistakes when they don't work with a professional who knows what they are doing and can safeguard them from poor outcomes.