02/02/2026
Here’s your reminder 🫶
Closeness isn’t supposed to feel like a performance.
If you grew up learning that connection meant staying agreeable, managing other people’s emotions, or overriding your own discomfort, it makes sense that intimacy can feel like something you do instead of something you experience.
But your body isn’t an inconvenience to work around.
It’s information 🧠
It’s wisdom 🌿
And yes, it gets a vote.
Consent isn’t just about what you say out loud. It also includes your internal yes. The part of you that feels settled instead of tense. Curious instead of braced. Present instead of checked out.
If your body is tightening, numbing, or pushing through on autopilot, that’s not a failure. It’s feedback. And therapy is a space where you get to slow down enough to actually listen to it without judgment or pressure.
Closeness can be mutual.
Safety can be felt, not forced.
And connection doesn’t require self-abandonment.
If you’re in Massachusetts and want support learning how to notice and trust your internal yes, you can schedule a free 15-minute intro call through the link in my bio 📞
Save this if you need the reminder 💾
Share it with someone who was taught to override themselves to stay connected 🤍
