12/23/2025
Yesterday got away from us, so Why It Matters Monday is sliding into Tuesday.
Because sometimes advocacy runs on real life, not perfect schedules.
And we believe in flexibility over perfection around here.
So welcome to Why It Matters Tuesday.
Let’s talk about why this still matters today.
Why It Matters Monday: The Gift of Being Seen
This season is full of gatherings, rituals, lights, and tradition. But disabled people know something that holiday culture often misses: presence comes in many forms, and being seen matters more than being visible.
~Think about a wheelchair user who wanted to attend a family celebration but could not because the home had stairs and no ramp. They sent a card instead.
~ Think of the autistic person who left a crowded event after ten minutes because the noise and lights overwhelmed their senses. They spent the rest of the evening recovering alone.
~Think of someone with chronic illness who used most of their energy to wrap two thoughtful gifts but could not afford to buy more.
~Think of an immunocompromised person who joined by Zoom, mask on, holding back tears because they missed physical connection.
Or a PCA who spent the holiday caring for someone else yet was forgotten in the celebration.
These experiences are often invisible to others.
Disabled people are used to being overlooked, dismissed, or treated as burdens to be managed rather than people to be included. We carry a history of being spoken for, segregated, institutionalized, pitied, and excluded from public life. Even today, the world is built in ways that tell us repeatedly that our participation is an inconvenience.
So when someone sees us, truly sees us, it is not a small thing. It is dignity.
Being seen might look like asking a wheelchair user what location works for them before planning an event.
~ It might be telling the autistic person that it is okay to step out or stim and that leaving early does not diminish their value.
~ It might be honoring a homemade gift as deeply meaningful because it represents limited energy, love, and effort.
~ It might be keeping someone on Zoom involved in the conversation instead of forgetting them once the call starts.
~ It might be inviting the PCA who makes someone’s holiday possible to share a plate and be thanked.
Being seen means shifting perspective. It means recognizing that disabled people are not the barrier. The built environment, social expectations, and assumptions are.
This season, be the person who refuses to treat disabled people as problems to work around. Be the one who makes space, who adapts, who asks what is needed, and who values presence in all its forms. When we offer the gift of visibility, we affirm that disabled people are not guests at the margins.
We belong at the table. We always did.