Blooming Edge

03/24/2026

Do you have an internal rebellious teenager inside of you that prevents you from getting sh*t done?
How can you creatively work with this self sabotage to have a better life?

03/23/2026

Are you physically or sexually repelled by your current partner?
What could you do to navigate this challenge?
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03/22/2026

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Yield and forgive
Or
Push and fight
We need it all in balance
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03/21/2026

Are you getting breadcrumbs and calling it a meal?

What’s healthy /sovereign hope vs toxic hope ?

Continuing series on how to identity and break the pattern and habit of toxic hope ….

03/18/2026

Younger children, say toddlerhood through grammar school, thrive on hope to survive childhood trauma.⠀⁠
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"I hope Mom will be in a good mood today. "⠀⁠
"I hope they won't fight tonight." ⠀⁠
"I hope they'll come to my final game. "⠀⁠
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Codependency, often rooted in magical thinking and hope, is an excellent strategy for surviving childhood. However, it would be too painful to realize who we are being parented by and that we'd be stuck with them till we're 18, and we are six. ⠀⁠
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Unfortunately, codependency stays with us as we mature, and we still hold out hope for abusive family members and abusive partners. ⠀⁠
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A part of us knows and gets this, but before recovery, we are driven mainly by our inner child (aka our subconscious), and it runs our lives with rose-colored glasses and wishful thinking about abusive people. ⠀⁠
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Our inner adult part, which reads the self-help books and shows up on some level, strengthens. We take the wheel from the inner child who needs help and parenting around letting go of people who aren't good for us.⁠
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This process is usually jump-started by a crisis or another moment when the abusive parent clobbers us or the abusive partner exploits or lets us down. ⠀⁠
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You can find that inner adult. It's in there. Finding a group, twelve-step, or inner child work with a trained therapist is helpful.⁠
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What do you think?

03/18/2026

I used to think I was healed. I really did.
I could talk about attachment styles like I wrote the textbook. I had the language down, the self-awareness, the therapy receipts. I was "doing the work."
But the truth? I was just busy enough to never feel anything. I filled every quiet moment — with work, with plans, with other people's problems, with my phone, with anything that kept me from sitting alone with what was actually underneath all of it.
And it worked. Until it didn't.
Because the thing about avoidance is that it feels like peace. You can convince yourself you have a secure attachment style when you're not dating anyone. You can say you've learned to manage your triggers when you've carefully built a life that avoids every single one of them. You can call it growth when really it's just a more sophisticated version of hiding.
I didn't realize how much I was still carrying until I put myself back in situations that required me to be vulnerable — and watched myself fall apart. That's when I understood: I hadn't healed. I had just gotten really good at coping.
Real healing doesn't happen in emotional silence. It happens in safe connection. It happens when old patterns are met with new responses. When vulnerability is met with presence instead of abandonment. When you're finally seen instead of ignored. That's when your nervous system learns something new. That's when your inner world starts to rewire.
Healing is messy. It's ugly. It's uncomfortable. And it will ask you to feel the exact things you've been running from. But that's how you know it's working.
If you're ready to stop coping and start actually healing — my book, my courses, and 1:1 coaching are all available through the link in my bio. Start wherever feels right for you.

03/18/2026

01/01/2026

Happy New Year . Grateful for my life and the amazing people in it! Are you counting your blessings today?

08/27/2025

Are you in?

07/22/2025

Yearly tribute to my love Montauk Ditch Plains
Can you feel it? The Magic