A New Way Counseling Collective, LLC

03/02/2026

If you and your partner are constantly arguing…
If small issues turn into big escalations…
If sarcasm and defensiveness feel normal…

Contempt may be running the show.

And contempt is the #1 predictor of divorce.

I wrote a blog breaking down what it is, how it destroys connection, and what high-conflict couples can do to repair it.

If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or feeling attacked, this is for you.

Read more here:

Contempt—sarcasm, eye rolling, shame—is the strongest predictor of divorce. Learn how high-conflict couples can eliminate contempt and rebuild connection.

02/15/2026

It feels like everything is high conflict right now.

The news. Social media. Politics. Community spaces. There’s so much outrage, so much certainty, so much “us vs. them.”

And then we’re supposed to come home and know how to be calm, loving partners.

No wonder so many of us feel confused about how to handle conflict in our own relationships.

Especially if we were shaped by religious spaces where we didn’t really learn how power and accountability work in healthy ways. Many of us didn’t see repair modeled. We saw loyalty to those in authority — sometimes at the expense of those with less voice or less influence.

We learned how to be “good.” We didn’t always learn how to name harm.
We learned how to forgive. We didn’t always learn how to require change.

When the world models domination and disconnection — and our early training taught us to suppress, over-accommodate, or spiritualize pain — it makes sense that conflict at home can feel overwhelming or loaded.

I wrote something for couples who are exhausted by the fighting and scared nothing will change. And for those quietly untangling the impact of religious conditioning inside their marriages.

If that’s you (or someone you love), I hope this offers a steadier way forward.

Here’s the link ❤️

High-conflict couples often leave therapy feeling more hopeless, not more connected. This article explores why traditional couples therapy fails high-conflict, long-term relationships — and what actually helps couples heal power struggles, nervous system activation, and deep relational wounds.

01/14/2026

Some couples face things they never imagined surviving.

Infidelity can leave you standing in the wreckage—still together, but stuck, numb, and unsure how to move forward.

If part of you knows you don’t want to just stay for the kids, but want real healing, intimacy, and truth again, you’re not alone—and you’re not asking too much.

I wrote a blog for couples who’ve faced the impossible and still want to move forward—not through denial or forced forgiveness, but through real repair and transformation.

If this speaks to you, you can read it here. https://www.anewwaycounselingcollective.com/blog/when-faith-family-and-infidelity-collide-moving-beyond-survival-toward-real-healing

12/02/2025

This time of year, everyone is asking, “What do you want?”
But for many of us—especially in high-conflict relationships—naming what we need can feel confusing, risky, or downright overwhelming.

Here’s one tool that makes it easier:

🎁 There are three kinds of asks:
Invitations. Requests. Demands.

When you know which one you’re making, communication becomes clearer, calmer, and WAY less loaded.

Check out the post to learn more.

If the holiday season stirs up your communication patterns, you are so not alone. This framework can help you breathe a little easier—and stay connected to the people who matter most. 🤍

Learn how invitations, requests, and demands can transform communication, reduce conflict, and help couples speak up for their needs—especially during the holidays.

10/30/2025

Many of us grew up hearing that s*x was only for marriage — that our s*xuality wasn’t really ours.

But research shows kids who get accurate, shame-free s*xual info make healthier, safer choices.

I wrote about how reclaiming our own s*xuality helps us heal from purity culture — and how we can model something new for our kids.

🪷 Read more: https://www.anewwaycounselingcollective.com/blog/reclaiming-what-was-always-mine-talking-to-our-kids-about-s*x-when-we-never-learned-how

Reclaim your s*xuality and connection after purity culture. Heal religious trauma, shame, and intimacy struggles through body-based, relational therapy.

10/24/2025

My 8-week online therapy group — Untangling Purity Culture & Healing Religious Trauma — begins Monday, November 3rd.

If you’ve been wanting to heal the lingering effects of purity culture — the shame, the fear, the disconnection from your own body and desire — this group is for you.

We’ll meet weekly on Mondays, 6–7:30 PM MST, in a small, supportive circle (only a few spots left).

🌱 Release shame
🌱 Reconnect with your body
🌱 Reclaim voice, desire, and joy

👉 Learn more and save your spot here: https://www.anewwaycounselingcollective.com/blog/untangling-purity-culture-an-8-week-online-therapy-group-for-healing-religious-trauma

Let’s untangle what holds us back — together.

10/15/2025

So many of us who grew up in church were taught to fear the dark — in the world, and in ourselves.
We learned to smile through pain, stay grateful, and keep our eyes on the bright side. But that kind of positivity often costs us our wholeness.

This time of year, as the days grow shorter, I’ve been thinking about how healing invites us to stop avoiding the dark and start listening to it instead.
Because darkness isn’t the enemy — it’s part of life, and it has wisdom to offer.

💬 Read more on the blog: When the Bright Side Becomes a Blind Spot
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Toxic positivity and religious trauma can block real healing. This October, as the world darkens, learn why embracing life’s shadow side can help you reclaim self-worth, honesty, and wholeness after trauma.

09/18/2025

09/15/2025

✨ New Group Offering ✨

Purity culture doesn’t just live in the past. For so many of us, it still shows up in the present—through shame in our bodies, fear around intimacy, and confusion about desire and worth.

That’s why I’ve created an 8-week online therapy group: Untangling Purity Culture & Healing Religious Trauma.

We’ll meet Monday evenings, Nov 3–Dec 22 from 6–7:30pm MST, to release shame, reconnect with the body, and reclaim voice, desire, and joy.

🌱 Small group (6–8 participants)
🌱 Online and supportive
🌱 Space for both healing and growth

If this speaks to you—or someone you love—click the link to learn more and apply. Spots are limited.
https://www.anewwaycounselingcollective.com/blog/untangling-purity-culture-an-8-week-online-therapy-group-for-healing-religious-trauma
Let’s untangle what holds us back and step into freedom, together. 💜

08/31/2025

✨ Intimacy isn’t just about love—it’s about the little things that either keep us connected or push us apart. Last weekend, Peter (the hus as the kids say) and I found ourselves bumping up against one of our classic differences: the pace we move through life. It could have been another moment of frustration, but instead it turned into a reminder of what really keeps intimacy alive—compassion, accountability, and vulnerability.

I wrote a new blog about this—why these 3 pillars matter so much in relationships, and how they can bring the spark back when it starts to fade. 💕

👉 Read it here:

Feeling stuck in your relationship? Learn how compassion, accountability, and vulnerability work together to reignite intimacy and keep the spark alive.

08/18/2025

Hi, I’m Sarah 👋 A somatic relationship therapist + recovering evangelical who helps people untangle trauma and find real connection. 💫 If you’re ready to feel safe, seen, and more alive in your relationships, I’d love to work with you. 🌱 PM me or hit the link in bio to connect.

08/14/2025

Your healing doesn’t have to wait.

You don’t have to stay tangled in shame, fear, or silence.
You don’t have to wait for the system to catch up before you start reconnecting to your body, your truth, and your sense of sacredness.
You can begin now.

If you find yourself untangling from religious trauma, ready to heal your nervous system, and learn new ways of relating s*xually, this post is for you.

Purity culture promised safety but left many of us disconnected from our bodies and desires. Discover how to reclaim intimacy, trust, and joy—in yourself and your relationships—without shame.