08/20/2021
Ever wonder about sexual arousal during a massage? Does just the idea of it happening keep you from scheduling a session? Or maybe you've had the experience of becoming aroused during a session and wondered what it means? Sexuality and massage have a long and confusing history. They overlap in the area of human trafficking and legitimate sex-work. They overlap in the area of non-sexual therapeutic massage. Confused? It can be confusing and guess what, thatβs fine! A professional can talk openly about these issues and any concerns you may have. SO! I've updated the language on my "Policies" Page of my website to address this issue in a more complete way. Clear boundaries are important in creating a safe space, and equally important is understanding that sexuality and the sexual response cycle is normal. Arousal during a session does happen sometimes - like most things in life, it's the meaning we assign to it that matters. Here are my thoughts for my practice, copied from my website https://www.kimsennett.com/policies
Scope of Practice, Boundaries and Sexual Misconduct in Massage Therapy
Massage is not a substitute for medical diagnoses or treatment. Please refer to your physician for questions regarding any symptoms you are experiencing.
I am aware that Sexual Misconduct is a problem that affects massage therapists and clients alike. My personal safety as well as your personal safety are very important to me. In an effort to raise awareness about the issue of sexual misconduct in the massage industry I am including this specific language to help protect us both and I encourage you to look for these policies at every massage studio / therapist you may visit. Please know that across the country, including Boulder and surrounding areas, some massage clients have been sexually assaulted by an otherwise qualified, professional massage therapist. This is an important issue for you, a massage client, to be aware of. This is not intended to scare you, but to inform you of this reality.
I have been professionally trained to offer therapeutic massage that is aimed at promoting your health and well-being. The work that I do is non-sexual *and I acknowledge and respect that sexuality is a normal and important part of a personβs health and well-being* (for some, not all). I do my best to respect this while also creating clear and safe boundaries for what *my* work is about. Massage can be deeply relaxing, and generally my style is. One pathway to arousal is rest and relaxation, so as your brain transitions from "thinking" to "feeling / being / healing" your body's physiology takes over - SUCCESS! This is the space where the major benefits of bodywork occur. Subsequently, this is where an er****on may occur (as happens during REM cycles of sleep - the most restful and healing part of sleep - necessary for your health!). So, if you experience an er****on during a session, it doesnβt mean you did anything wrong, or that anything sexual is going to happen - it means that your body is functioning normally and the massage is working to induce a deep-state of relaxation so that your body can heal itself. Therefore there is nothing βwrongβ and nothing needs to be βdoneβ about an er****on / sexual arousal. If you would like, I am happy to pause the session and guide you through breathing exercises until you feel comfortable continuing the session, alternatively I can move to your feet to help the energy move down and ground you. Sexual energy can be very healing (I am not talking about sexual activity or sexual release). Sexuality is a creative force in our lives and when we understand that it is simply a normal aspect of being human we donβt have to personalize it. Your arousal is not about me as your therapist personally. With all of that said, any request for sexual acts will be considered a violation of the terms of the session and depending on the degree of boundary violation I may choose to end the session in which case you will be charged the full price of the session. Again depending on the degree of boundary violation I may also choose to file a police report. Communication is vitally important during your session. I take it as my responsibility to lead the conversation and create opportunities for you to speak up and let me know if something is not working for you.
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