Nicol Pate Psychotherapy

03/26/2021

We are offering free crisis counseling through the Therapy Aid Coalition for those impacting by the Boulder Shootings. This starts Friday 3/26/21, 9-1130am at the Unity Church. www.therapyaid.org/bouldershooting

03/26/2021

We are offering free crisis counseling for victims of the Boulder shooting at the Unity Church, starting Friday from 9-1130am.

Therapy Aid Coalition & The Somatic Experiencing ® Trauma Institute are co-hosting drop-in crisis counseling for those impacted by the King Soopers shooting.What: Free drop-in crisis counseling for those impacted by the Boulder, CO King Soopers Shooting.Where: Unity of Boulder Church, 2855 Folsom S...

06/24/2020

What makes true self care so hard?

Self care is talked about so frequently these days. Let me say a bit about what I mean by self care. I’m not talking about hedonistic, narcissistic kinds of self focus. I’m not talking about manicures or spa days or anything like that really. I’m talking about basic care for ourselves. The stuff that keeps our bodies functioning well. Things like sleeping well, healthy food, joy, calm, a sense of safety, connection with others. For some it’s keeping the house clean enough, getting enough sleep to feel rested, caring for one’s appearance, getting a chance to move our bodies regularly. It’s keeping connected to friends and romantic partners.

Why do some of us struggle to give ourselves self care more than others? Those of us who didn’t have enough structure, support, boundaries and guidance as we were growing up can struggle a bit more with self care

When parents aren’t able to provide this structure for kids, it’s often not easy to teach it to ourselves later on. If kids grow up with this as their normal, they don’t know any different and it can be hard to find a different way in adulthood. This kind of experience is ...

For the full article, visit:

https://nicolpate.com/2020/06/why-is-self-care-so-hard/

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06/07/2020

Black Lives Matter: Thoughts From One White Person

I am a white woman and I want to say something about race to other white people. I have rewritten this post multiple times because it’s a complicated issue and I’m not an expert by any means. Anything I say here will be completely inadequate, but silence is complacency and I will not be silent regarding where I stand on the Black Lives Matter movement. I fully support the Black Lives Matter movement.

Speaking up, doesn’t mean saying it perfectly, or not making a mistake. I know that for many reasons, but most especially because I’m white, I have an endless amount to learn. I will not get to most of it in my lifetime, but my goal is to keep trying, learning and growing and changing my behavior and choices wherever I can.

I want to share a few things because I know that my silence leaves people who don’t know me unsure of where I stand. White silence leaves people of color in a less safe situation. So here are some of my thoughts, where I’m coming from, what I’m trying to do right now to grow, and a few ideas on places other white people can grow and take action too.

My first lessons around race came from...Read the rest of the article here: https://nicolpate.com/2020/06/black-lives-matter/
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05/02/2020

Confined at home, finally, the things you’ve needed to say are birthed.
I need some space
I need some time alone
I need help with the kids
I need others to do their chores

And by necessity, we might even start to say to ourselves, those things we’ve had trouble coming to terms with
I need to meditate
I need to move my body
I need to dance
I need more touch
I am lonely
I am afraid

I am meditating
Listening to my feelings, intuition and knowing

I’m taking one full breath

Right now I’m alive
Right now, I’m fully present
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04/07/2020

At the beginning of COVID19 it seemed that my couple clients and my friends were getting along so well with those they live with. Last week, not so much. Here are 16 Things That Can Help. Click on the link to read my article about How to Get Along When COVID19 ‘Isolation’ Feels More Like an Endless Road Trip.

https://nicolpate.com/2020/04/how-to-get-along-when-covid19-isolation-feels-more-like-an-endless-road-trip-with-the-family/

03/27/2020

The current public health crisis has created a deep sense of fear in so many people around the world. In my psychotherapy practic I teach people how to go deeper into the emotion in order to lessen it. Click the link in my bio to read about Coping With Fear During COVID19
https://nicolpate.com/2020/03/how-to-be-less-anxious-during-covid19/.

03/25/2020

National Puppy Day (March 23rd) was a good reminder of how safe and warm and loved we can feel when we cuddle up against a furry friend. In this time of stress, who are you cuddling up with?

03/24/2020

The COVID19 pandemic has created a great deal of anxiety for many people. These beautiful herbs and vegetable starters are one practical response to COVID19 anxiety.
https://nicolpate.com/2020/03/practical-help-for-anxiety-during-the-pandemic/