04/10/2026
Domineering (Paḷāsa) — When the Mind Insists on Being Above
In Buddhist psychology, Paḷāsa, often translated as domineering or rivalry, is one of the 16 imperfections of the mind (upakkilesa) that cloud our awareness and obstruct the path to inner freedom. It is the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) tendency to assert ourselves over others, to correct, override, belittle, or simply refuse to acknowledge another's worth. Paḷāsa doesn't always look like a tyrant on a throne. More often, it shows up in small moments: the urge to talk over someone, the refusal to admit you're wrong, or the quiet satisfaction of feeling superior. The Buddha identified this quality not as a character flaw to be condemned, but as a mental imperfection, a defilement that, when left unexamined, keeps the mind in a state of agitation and separation.
Mindfulness is the lamp that illuminates Paḷāsa without judgment. When we sit in stillness, whether in formal meditation or in the quiet of an ordinary moment, we begin to notice the mind's subtle power plays. We see how quickly the ego reaches for the "upper hand," how tightly it clings to being right, being respected, being seen as capable. The practice isn't to shame these impulses, but to observe them with honest, gentle awareness. The moment we clearly see Paḷāsa arising, the tightening in the chest, the sharpening of tone, the closing of the heart, we loosen its grip. Mindfulness creates a pause between the impulse and the action, and in that pause lives our freedom.
This weekend, we invite you to bring curious, compassionate attention to the moments when your mind reaches for dominance. Notice where you feel the need to be above, above criticism, above correction, above others. Ask yourself softly: What am I protecting? What am I afraid to lose? The path of presence isn't about becoming passive or small, it's about meeting others and yourself on even ground, with an open heart. When Paḷāsa is seen and understood, what replaces it is something far more powerful than dominance: genuine connection, humility, and the quiet confidence of a mind that has nothing left to prove.
Sathu. Sathu. Sathu.
Buddham Saranam Gacchami
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