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01/23/2026

What healing actually looks like?

Not the perfectly curated, always-glowing, sage-burning aesthetic social media loves to show.

It looks like setting a boundary and second-guessing yourself all day.

Crying on a random Tuesday because an old wound got triggered.

Choosing rest instead of overexplaining.

Not reacting like you used to, but still shaking from the effort it took.

Realizing healing isn’t a finish line, it’s a daily decision.

If you’ve been doing the messy, quiet, uncomfortable work…That is healing. And I see you.

Drop a 💛 if you’re in it too.

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⚠ As a friendly reminder, this content is for educational purposes only and is not meant to be a substitute for therapy. Everything I share is general, which means some things may resonate, and others won’t - and that’s okay! Take what you can relate to and leave the rest.

01/08/2026

Healing isn’t just about what you add to your life, it’s also about what you stop allowing.

Here are some behaviors I’ve stopped normalizing in my relationships:

Trying to fix problems I didn’t create

Apologizing for having needs or boundaries

Feeling guilty for saying no

Laughing off hurtful comments to keep the peace

Accepting half effort relationships

Ignoring red flags because I wanted to “see the good”

Tolerating disrespect because I understood their trauma

This list isn’t about perfection, it’s about protecting your peace and creating healthy boundaries.

✨ Save this for the days when you need a reminder of what you won’t accept.

💌 Share this with someone who might need it too.

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⚠ As a friendly reminder, this content is for educational purposes only and is not meant to be a substitute for therapy. Everything I share is general, which means some things may resonate, and others won’t - and that’s okay! Take what you can relate to and leave the rest.

01/08/2026

We’re currently accepting new therapy clients 🤍

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, anxious, emotionally exhausted, or stuck in patterns you’re ready to change, support is available.

While I’m on maternity leave, I have trusted associates in my practice who are seeing new clients and providing thoughtful, high-quality care.

They work with adults navigating anxiety, family stress, boundary work, and emotional burnout, and more.

Reaching out for therapy can feel intimidating, especially if you’ve been carrying a lot on your own. You don’t have to wait until things fall apart to ask for support.

If you’ve been thinking about starting therapy (or returning), now may be a good time.

✨ To inquire about availability, send a message or visit this link:

Contact us for in-person & virtual therapy for women in California. Break Unhealthy Cycles, Set Healthy Boundaries in Relationships with Dr. Allyson Kellum - Licensed Therapist

01/08/2026

A few of you have asked how to support my work here. 😃 Facebook has a feature called Stars that lets you send a small tip on posts you find helpful.
Totally optional, just sharing in case it’s useful 🤍

01/07/2026

Finally prioritizing my peace didn’t happen overnight.

It happened after years of over-explaining. 😟

After replaying conversations in my head.

After carrying guilt for needing space. 😕

After being the “understanding one” at my own expense.

At some point, I realized protecting my peace wasn’t selfish, it was necessary.

And if family dynamics leave you emotionally drained, questioning yourself, or feeling guilty for wanting boundaries… it’s not because you’re too sensitive.

It’s because you were never taught how to protect yourself without feeling like the bad guy.

That’s why I created my $17 mini guide, for women who are done sacrificing their mental health to keep the peace with everyone else.

Inside, I walk you through:
• why prioritizing your peace feels so hard
• how to stop over-explaining and people-pleasing
• how to set boundaries without spiraling into guilt

You don’t need to be in crisis to invest in your peace.

💬 Comment PEACE and I’ll send you the link.

01/06/2026

I have some exciting news to share with all of you! 🥰

I created a mini guide because so many women are exhausted from being the emotionally responsible one, the one who understands, forgives, holds it together, and keeps the peace at their own expense. 😫

This isn’t about cutting people off.

It’s about breaking unhelpful patterns.

Breaking Cycles, Choosing Peace is a $17 guide for the woman who knows she wants something different, even if she doesn’t fully know how yet.

It’s gentle.

It’s validating.

It’s a starting point.

If you’re in a season of slowing down, protecting your peace, or doing things differently than what you were taught, comment GUIDE and I’ll send you the link.

01/05/2026

You don’t hear about this part of healing enough.

The part where you’re no longer willing to carry emotional labor that was never yours, but you also haven’t fully grieved the version of relationships you hoped for.

This phase can feel isolating, confusing, and heavy.

Especially when you’re the one who changed.

If you’re here, I want you to know:

You’re not cold.
You’re not selfish.
You’re not “too much.”

You’re just no longer willing to abandon yourself to keep the peace.

If this resonates, save this post.
And if you’re in this phase right now, comment ME. I see you. 🥰

12/29/2025

Not everything in the new year needs to be about becoming better.

Some goals are about becoming safer.

Which one resonates with you most? 👇
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12/26/2025

Remember, your mental health and peace come first. ⁣
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Protect your energy this holiday season and give yourself permission to prioritize what feels right for you. 🌟 ⁣
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Share this post if you needed this reminder today!⁣
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⚠ As a friendly reminder, this content is for educational purposes only and is not meant to be a substitute for therapy. Everything I share is general, which means some things may resonate, and others won’t - and that’s okay! Take what you can relate to and leave the rest. 💓

12/22/2025

I used to normalize so many of these behaviors because I was taught to “be the bigger person,” “keep the peace,” or “that’s just how family is.”

But healing taught me this:

👉 Toxic doesn’t become healthy just because it’s familiar.
👉 Harm doesn’t stop being harm because it comes from family.

The holidays tend to magnify this, the guilt, the pressure, the unspoken expectations, the old roles we’re pushed back into.

That’s exactly why I created When Family Hurts, a course for people who are tired of minimizing their pain, over-explaining their boundaries, or feeling like they’re the problem for wanting emotional safety.

✨ Holiday Special:
The course is currently $97 (normally $197) for a limited time.

If you’re ready to stop normalizing what hurts and start choosing peace without guilt, this course is for you.

👇 Comment “COURSE” and I’ll send you the link.

12/18/2025

No one really prepares you for how complicated family relationships can feel once you start healing.

The grief. The guilt. The second-guessing.

The pressure to keep being who you’ve always been for everyone else.

At some point, you realize you’re not trying to “cut people off,” you’re trying to stop cutting yourself off in order to keep the peace.

If any of these resonated, let this be your reminder:

You’re not too sensitive.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re responding to patterns that required you to shrink.

✨ Healing doesn’t mean burning bridges. It means building boundaries.

Save this for the days you start questioning yourself 🤍

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⚠ As a friendly reminder, this content is for educational purposes only and is not meant to be a substitute for therapy. Everything I share is general, which means some things may resonate, and others won’t - and that’s okay! Take what you can relate to and leave the rest.

12/16/2025

Healing doesn’t always look like confronting, explaining, or having the perfect final conversation.

Sometimes it looks like noticing the tightness in your chest…

and choosing to leave before you abandon yourself.

Being healed enough to walk away doesn’t mean you don’t care.

It means you care without self-betrayal.

You stop waiting for people to become different.

You stop needing closure to come wrapped in accountability.

You stop confusing endurance with growth.

You just… choose yourself quietly. ☺️

And that choice changes everything.

Save this if you’re in this season. 🏃‍♀️

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⚠ As a friendly reminder, this content is for educational purposes only and is not meant to be a substitute for therapy. Everything I share is general, which means some things may resonate, and others won’t - and that’s okay! Take what you can relate to and leave the rest.