09/29/2025
That last sentence. Let me say it one more time. Because sometimes part of the growth and healing is about exiting sooner instead of not entering at all. Repeat repeat repeat. Friends, let’s not forget the steps. And please…PLEASE…a little gentleness for the self.
I know it can feel frustrating, even infuriating when we know better. When we can see the damn pattern and still feel drawn into it. “I know he’s not available, I know this, and I’m still investing time and energy into him.” Yes, sometimes we can see the lesson so clearly and still choose to enter. I know that can feel confusing at times. “Why am I doing this??? I know how this is going to end.” And there you are, entering back into something you believe you’ve already learned. But here’s the thing, learnings become integration often through repetition. Sometimes it takes one time, and sometimes it takes more. So instead of criticizing yourself or shaming yourself, might you remind yourself that your awareness here is powerful and that maybe, just maybe, part of your growth is more about your exit rather than you entry. Because maybe part of your growth and healing is about you learning how to speak up for yourself, maybe it’s about you initiating an ending instead of waiting for someone to end things with you, maybe it’s about you not overstaying as long as you used to. Maybe it’s about you exiting sooner instead of not entering at all. Share this with someone who needs to hear it.
