Connection Codes

Connection Codes Dr. Glenn Hill is a life and relationship coach, author and speaker, marriage and family therapist a

Guilt shows up everywhere during the holidays - you feel guilty for not wanting to go. Then you feel guilty for leaving ...
11/26/2025

Guilt shows up everywhere during the holidays - you feel guilty for not wanting to go. Then you feel guilty for leaving early. You feel guilty for saying no. Then you feel guilty for saying yes when you didn’t have the capacity.

Here’s the truth: Guilt isn’t bad. It’s information.

Guilt tells us when our values are in tension. And during the holidays, our values are constantly competing—be present vs. protect your energy, show up for everyone vs. honor your limits, give generously vs. acknowledge what’s sustainable.

The guilt you feel isn’t because you’re doing it wrong. It’s because you’re human, navigating impossible expectations while trying to stay connected to what actually matters.

So if you’re feeling guilty this week, you’re not broken. Guilt is just trying to tell you something about what you value.

Want help recognizing and processing your guilt? Comment WHEEL for our free Core Emotion Wheel download. 💙

11/25/2025

When you’re both flooded with emotion during the holidays—whether it’s at the dinner table or after everyone leaves—this is the practice that changes everything.

Regard what’s happening for you. Slow down enough to regard what’s happening for them. Both of you get to exist.

Listen to this episode featuring Connection Codes Director of Coaching Elijah Runyan out now on Spotify, Apple, & YouTube!

We must feel heard.Being heard and feeling heard are two distinctly different things.When we don’t feel heard, we get lo...
11/24/2025

We must feel heard.

Being heard and feeling heard are two distinctly different things.

When we don’t feel heard, we get louder—but eventually give up. We receive the message that we don’t have value and we lose identity.

This is why presence matters. Why “Oooo” matters. Why validation changes everything.

Connection isn’t about saying the right thing. It’s about the other person feeling seen, known, and valued.

Tag someone below that makes you FEEL heard!

EmotionalIntelligence

11/20/2025

Wait… you’re knowing about our stuff?

This is exactly what we’re here for! Seeing these tools shift people’s everyday lives and transform their relationships means everything to us.

Healthy conversations, relational growth, and emotional processing—that’s what Connection Codes is all about. And hearing how these simple tools are creating real, life-changing effects? That’s why we do this work.

Ready to start processing your emotions? Comment “WHEEL” for our free Core Emotion guide!

11/19/2025

You didn’t actually do anything wrong—but you still feel guilt. So, what’s happening?

Guilt fires when you violate your own values or hurt someone. But it can also fire when you violate societal expectations—even when those expectations aren’t actually yours.

You feel guilty for setting boundaries, saying no, or asking for help because you were taught those things were selfish.

Ask yourself: Did I violate one of MY values? Or did I just go against what I was taught I’m supposed to do?

If you didn’t violate your values, process the guilt and remind yourself what’s true. Guilt isn’t bad—it’s your messenger helping you stay aligned with who you are.
Want to learn how to process guilt? Comment “WHEEL” for our free Core Emotion guide.

11/18/2025

Connection is possible…and it’s not that complicated.

Connection Codes coach Friedemann Pache shares how the same tools that transformed his marriage work everywhere—in friendships, churches, teams, and beyond.

After 16 years in ministry, he discovered something crucial: your body has been trying to tell you something all along. The breakthrough isn’t about pushing harder or taking another pill to keep functioning. It’s about finally learning to listen.

Connection isn’t just for marriage. It’s for every relationship that matters. And the steps? They’re simpler than you think.

Listen to today’s episode out now on Apple, Spotify, & YouTube!

The most pressing human need isn’t food, water, or oxygen. It’s identity—the need to know “I matter.”We receive identity...
11/17/2025

The most pressing human need isn’t food, water, or oxygen. It’s identity—the need to know “I matter.”

We receive identity through connection. When we don’t, our body registers it as a threat and triggers emotions.

Emotions are information about whether identity is being threatened or confirmed.

When you learn to process emotions, you can respond instead of react.

You matter. You always have. Comment “WHEEL” to learn how to process.

Guilt lets you know when you’ve made a mistake and need to do something different next time.But guilt doesn’t only show ...
11/12/2025

Guilt lets you know when you’ve made a mistake and need to do something different next time.

But guilt doesn’t only show up as thoughts, it shows up in your body. As physical discomfort, behavioral patterns, and emotional loops that you can’t quite name.

When you don’t recognize guilt in your body, it gets stuck. It replays the moment over and over. It turns into shame, self-criticism, and withdrawal.

Guilt doesn’t make you bad, but ignoring it keeps you stuck.

Ready to process guilt instead of carrying it? Comment “WHEEL” for our free Core Emotion guide!

11/11/2025

“It takes time to learn a new way of living.”

This isn’t just a neat little exercise. It’s not a quick fix or a one-time realization. Learning to identify and process your emotions daily, choosing presence over fixing, asking “what happens”, this is a complete shift in how you show up in your life and relationships.

It’s a new way of living. And it takes time.

Check out this episode where Connection Codes coach Annemiek from the Netherlands and Dr. Glenn Hill talk about what it really takes to do this work—and why it’s worth it.

Comment “191” to listen to the full episode out now on YouTube Apple, & Spotify!

Emotion happens, we don’t get to choose that, but what we do get to choose is how we respond to emotion.Emotions aren’t ...
11/10/2025

Emotion happens, we don’t get to choose that, but what we do get to choose is how we respond to emotion.

Emotions aren’t something to push down and control, they’re something to recognize and process.

The next time emotion happens: pause, identify it, feel it, and process it.

Want the tools to process emotions? Comment “WHEEL” for our free Core Emotion guide.

She is radiant.Phyllis has shown up and given 1000% of herself to everyone around her. And, if you listen to our podcast...
11/10/2025

She is radiant.

Phyllis has shown up and given 1000% of herself to everyone around her. And, if you listen to our podcast, her vulnerability is healing.

She is as wonderful behind the scenes as you see her. Truly, a gift to us all.

Help me wish her a Happy Birthday.

Thank you Phyllis Hill for showing up. We are all better because you do 🫶🏻

This month, the core emotion that we are going to be featuring is guilt!Guilt often gets a bad reputation. We treat it l...
11/05/2025

This month, the core emotion that we are going to be featuring is guilt!

Guilt often gets a bad reputation. We treat it like something to eliminate or avoid. But guilt is your internal moral compass—it tells you when your actions don’t align with your values.

When you process guilt—acknowledge what you did, feel the remorse, understand what value you violated, and take action to repair—guilt can do its job and release. But when guilt sits unprocessed, it consumes you. It replays on a loop and keeps you stuck.

Sometimes, though, guilt shows up even when you haven’t done anything wrong. In those moments, the work isn’t about repair—it’s about examining whether the expectations you’re holding yourself to are fair, realistic, or even yours to carry. Not all guilt is earned, and recognizing the difference is part of emotional intelligence too.

You’re allowed to make mistakes and still be a good person. Guilt doesn’t define you—it directs you toward what needs to be made right.

Feel the guilt. Make the repair. Move forward. Try again.

That’s the work.

Save this for the next time guilt shows up.

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