04/03/2026
Unlearning is our series on the quiet beliefs that shaped you, and what it looks like to question them.
For those who feel like they should never miss family gatherings, the holiday table has a way of making obligation feel like love.
You’ve been showing up for years.Â
Through the tension nobody names, the conversations that stay surface-level, the version of yourself you quietly pack away before you walk through the door.Â
And you do it because that’s what you were taught love looks like.Â
Consistent. Unconditional. Present. No matter what it costs you.
This is the first thing we’re unlearning together.Â
Not to abandon the people you love, but to get honest about what love is actually asking of you, and what obligation has just been borrowing that name.
You’re allowed to know the difference.
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