Dr. William Ryan

12/30/2025

With The PACT Institute – I'm on a streak! I've been a top fan for 7 months in a row. 🎉

12/30/2025

Hi

There are lots of reasons not to have serious discussions while one of you is driving the car 

Agree to save sensitive conversations for when you can sit face-to-face. You’ll avoid dangerous driving while also having a much better chance of staying emotionally regulated enough to resolve your disagreement.

12/29/2025

Hi

As a couple, staying, Friendly works better

When I say "attraction," I don't mean physical attractiveness. The attraction I'm referring to here is simply the act of making something enticing to your partner. Secure-functioning partners use playfulness, seduction, persuasion, and bargaining to get what they want rather than using fear, threat, guilt, or shame.

12/29/2025

Hi

As a couple, it works best to be team players preparing for a potentially stressful event, like meeting with in-laws. If you’re on a Super Bowl team or a Seal Team or romantic partners , you have each other‘s backs even if you’re angry with each other.  We can count on each other. 

12/24/2025

 Hi

If people could really abide by these guidelines, the holidays would be truly more merry!

12/22/2025

The holiday season can intensify relationship dynamics—bringing moments of closeness, but also resurfacing unresolved conflict, grief, or tension. For couples navigating betrayal, infidelity, or ongoing patterns of disconnection, this time of year can feel especially complex.

As the year comes to a close, this season can offer an opportunity to pause and reflect on the work of repair, honesty, and emotional courage. Healing within relationships is rarely linear, but every moment of accountability, listening, and vulnerability represents meaningful progress. ✨

Wishing you a peaceful and grounding holiday season, and a new year with space for clarity, repair, and renewed understanding. 🌿

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12/18/2025

Hi

Having your partner’s back is what it means to be on the same team.

When tensions run high over the holidays, have your partner's back. Be careful not to throw them under the bus, side with someone else over them, or reveal private information in front of others.

If you disagree with your partner, wait until you are in private to let them know. Doing so will allow you to be honest while making them feel safe. 💞

12/16/2025

The plain truth: sometimes you’re difficult for your partner, and sometimes your partner is difficult for you.

12/15/2025

We can help each other break habits that have a bad impact on the relationship. To do this, though, we must invite our partner to help us. To remind us.

12/14/2025

Any Union, from a nation, to a union of workers, to a union of two romantically attached partners, work best when they agree on principles, values, how we will operate together. Principles of fairness and justice are a good place to start.

12/10/2025

Understanding your own and your partners attachment strategy (not “style“) can help us stay friendly in our close relationships. Stan gives one example here.