Ian Sherman- Licensed Clinical Social Worker

07/15/2023

It has been a while since I posted. This is a post about Terry Real and Relational Life Therapy (RTL) which a type of therapy that I can relate to given the rawness and strategic principles.

Terry Real is a therapist from Massetchusetts working with individuals and couples; developing a form of therapy he calls Relational Life Therapy (RLT). He started out working with men who had...

01/28/2021

A good friend and mentor of mine, Paul Allerton, has written The Essential Guide for the Married Man, available on Amazon. I've known Paul for many years and one thing I can say is that he walks his talk. In reading his book I was able to recognize my own destructive patterns and take steps towards taking responsibility for my part in relationships. The principles in this guide are extremely insightful, practical and are designed to get you back on track to being the man you envisioned for yourself and in your marriage.

The Essential Guide for the Married Man: Principles and Lessons for Navigating a Successful Marriage and a Meaningful Life

07/09/2020

Social distancing. Flatten the curve. Shelter at home. Three months ago, we had never even heard of these terms. Now, they’ve become defining features of our lives. We’ve embraced this vocabulary as a means of understanding this surreal period we’re living through. In our fight against a micro...

12/27/2019

10/23/2019

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This handbook defines the victim mentality and gives tools to avoid being sucked into it. We all have the ability to choose.
Avoiding victimhood is choosing to be responsible for our own actions and results. It's also about not operating from our ego but from our higher virtues. We cannot do this alone and need to have the inner strength to ask for support.

09/24/2019

Andropause is not usually a topic that men want to discuss or admit that they are going through. Most men don't know that they are going through it which often leads shame and depression. This is why I wanted to write briefly on this topic.

As a Behavioral Health Consultant in a health center, I receive calls to assist patients who experience issues around anxiety, depression, substance abuse and other behavioral health concerns. ...

08/11/2019

When dealing with difficult people or situations do you go about it with an attitude or with a sense of patience and understanding? I personally find that treating those people with kindness and respect usually leads to better results outwardly and intrinsically.

There have been several times when I had to contact customer support due to problems with an order or due to my own negligence. Either way I did my best to go in with the attitude of being super...

07/20/2019

Creating a space just for you apart from your career and relationships is important for reflection, rejuvenation, and intuition.

My wife and I recently went on vacation in a very small all-inclusive hotel in Mexico. We both had an excellent time and relaxed a whole bunch. We really enjoyed spending time together but there...

07/09/2019

Self-Discipline, as defined on collinsdictionary.com, is the ability to control yourself and to make yourself work hard or behave in a particular way without needing anyone else to tell you what to...

06/19/2019

​ Many of us have very busy lives and often long lists of things to get done. I sometimes hear people say “I don’t even have time to go to the bathroom.” I start at 5 am and sometimes...

06/18/2019

The author gives good tips on how to best deal with a crisis situation including developing a level of acceptance (not agreement), seeking support from trust-worthy people and practicing self care.

From medical emergencies to financial crises, these strategies can help.

06/07/2019

I was just looking through blog posts of my fellow therapists and I found this blog about the importance of finding your own happiness within. It's a good reminder to avoid constantly comparing ourselves to others and to cherish our own unique gifts.

It should be obvious, but the reality is that so many of us are unhappy because we choose to be unhappy. We spend our days dwelling on our failures, how we do not compare to others, coveting what others have and so dig ...