Zahavah Fishfeld, LMHC

04/23/2026

Logic will work... until your emotions catch up to you.

At some point you won't be able to use logic anymore.

If you are a logical person, so well planned and organized and seem so put together on the outside, while falling apart inside, you are not alone.

You can't logicalize emotions forever.

04/15/2026

If you jump in all the way, you may need to back away completely

This is true if you are supporting someone who is struggling or if you are seeking support.

Balance is so important. Remember boundaries as you think about what your long term goal is.

People get burnt out.

If you want to support someone, would you rather give less of yourself for a longer period of time or give more until you can't?

Same goes for those seeking support. Would you prefer less support over more time or intense support for a short amount of time?

04/12/2026

04/10/2026

Forward... backwards and the cycle continues like this.

A trail on a mountain doesn't go straight up and neither does your path in life. There are bumps along the way. Areas you need to find your way around.

You may not feel as strong when you are in many more situations where you are tested than you are used to.

You may feel triggered.

You may feel overwhelmed.

You may have experienced being invalidated or disrespected.

What's important is you coming out of the situation knowing you did your best.

Looking back to see where you can grow from this situation will help you feel better moving forward.

This empowers you and gives you a sense of control where you may have not felt it enough.

04/01/2026

It feels hard.... because it is.

On paper if you can't change the situation, why change the mindset?

Here's a thought. If you can notice your thoughts and feelings and not try to fight them, you may feel just a little bit better.

That little bit may give you more motivation and hope as to why staying on the positive side will help.

You are here anyway. You are experiencing it anyway.

03/29/2026

If you are not "feeling it," that's okay.

03/24/2026

The last thing you may want to do is address what you've been avoiding.

Here's a question to challenge yourself.

How has your traumatic experience shown up while trying to avoid it?

If you feel reaching that point of no longer avoiding is inevitable, try to do it when you still have some control.

Trauma will catch up to you.

03/23/2026

Your go to may be to see how someone can prove themselves to you before you can trust them.

That's because you were exposed to too many situations where you should have been able to trust. You were not protected or cared for. You were not able to rely on others but yourself.

The thing is that sometimes it may not be about what someone is doing as much as what they are not doing. They may have showed you a consistent period of time where they have not done anything to hurt you. You never felt unsafe.

Who do you know that when around them, you can let your guard down?

03/23/2026

Has anyone ever showed you that your feelings are important?

Were you taught it was important to help others and that was a good thing, even when you expressed discomfort?

Do your current relationships value your feelings?

03/08/2026

Your voice is more important than the person trying to narrate or dictate your life.

As always, as long as you are in a growth oriented place and know you are setting boundaries with unhealthy people, you shouldn't need to question how others react to you.

There's a quote about those getting upset with you setting boundaries being the reason you need to set them.

When you want to please or you've been taught to be subservient, you may feel you don't have rights to your feelings, thoughts and being regulated.

I'm here to say YOU HAVE RIGHTS.

03/05/2026

Repeating the same thing in the same way never helped get different results. Maybe I was hoping but that's as far a that goes.

How about you?

There is never magic in the work doing itself; just wishful thinking.