Zahavah Fishfeld, LMHC

03/08/2026

Your voice is more important than the person trying to narrate or dictate your life.

As always, as long as you are in a growth oriented place and know you are setting boundaries with unhealthy people, you shouldn't need to question how others react to you.

There's a quote about those getting upset with you setting boundaries being the reason you need to set them.

When you want to please or you've been taught to be subservient, you may feel you don't have rights to your feelings, thoughts and being regulated.

I'm here to say YOU HAVE RIGHTS.

03/05/2026

Repeating the same thing in the same way never helped get different results. Maybe I was hoping but that's as far a that goes.

How about you?

There is never magic in the work doing itself; just wishful thinking.

03/01/2026

The truth isn't always easy.

If you get hurt from others continuously, it may be time to see where you can grow internally.

When you know where you stand and what direction you are headed in, you will be looking for that others.

Those same people will also find you.

"Desperate" is a word used when you are looking to satisfy something that is missing.

The longer and harder way to do it right long term is to go through the process.

Fill your needs long term and then you will find people to add on to it.

You won't think others can fill voids anymore when you understand you must be the one to do it.

02/23/2026

You can think about yourself when you know you also think about others.

When you've been hurt, been a people pleaser and spent much of your life thinking and overthinking if you matter, all that can change.

You matter.

You are important.

You deserve to be treated with respect.

You have the right to distance yourself from those who aren't healthy for you.

You have the right to feel good about those you allow yourself to be surrounded by.

02/19/2026

I'm talking to you if you went through a traumatic experience.

I applaud you.

The words trauma survivor can mean that there could be uncertainty at any point in your life.

Yes, those points can be fewer and shorter over time, but they always can be.

Learning skills can feel as hard as how helpful they can.

Trusting yourself to choose the right support system isn't easy either.

Always be kind to yourself and surround yourself with those that are kind to you as well.

02/15/2026

Think of equal.

Not with money and power.

Think of equal with communication, trust and respect.

When you work on these, you will feel more comfortable discussing what you may be struggling with in your relationship.

When you have the communication, trust and respect you won't worry about facing an unpleasant or even abusive reaction from the other person.

02/12/2026

On the path of life, there will be highs and lows.

When in a cycle of negative feelings, it can be so hard to remember that the positive will come afterwards. Sometimes neutral will happen first.

Challenge

1) When looking back at lows, does it feel as bad/ intense now as it did then?

2) Have you learned any skills to regulate, challenge thoughts or identify feelings to approach the future differently?

02/11/2026

02/04/2026

Leave the speculation as speculation.

When something is happening you know it is.

If it may happen, you probably have many other things that may happen as well.

It will be more effective to build your skills box so when something is happening, you will feel more confident you have the skills to help yourself.

Be kind to yourself and don't create situations that will unground you because of your anxiety.

02/03/2026

When you feel off, you feel off.

You may be feeling anxious. Anger, depression and trauma can also be the reason for feeling disregulated.

The knowing how to regulate can be more important than the why.

It's also a natural reaction to feel you are in the worst place when something comes up and you don't have a way out or to comfort yourself.

01/26/2026

When you have to do the work, you may feel so tired from it.

It may feel easier in the moment to give up, but only in the moment.

Because, the reasons for wanting to do the work won't just go away.

If you choose the I can way, it won't be easy and there will be ups and downs along the way.

If you choose the I can't way, you'll either be effected by what's going on or the effects of trying to dissociate from your feelings.

01/25/2026

Triggers may feel intense but you can get to a place where you can feel loved and supported through the pain.

There is a good chance the triggers will get less intense and less often over time. This does happen for most.

I won't sugarcoat it. It is rough to live with intense triggers. I won't downplay the idea of hope either.