Zahavah Fishfeld, LMHC

Zahavah Fishfeld, LMHC Over ten years of helping clients see results and find a balance they are comfortable with. Free consultation. Sessions offered remotely.

www.zahavahfishfeldlmhc.com

Yes you should. And the question is should you control yourself when feeling upset? Why? Because when you struggle with ...
11/22/2025

Yes you should. And the question is should you control yourself when feeling upset?

Why? Because when you struggle with being in control of yourself when upset, you create a wedge. The wedge gets bigger. It is hard to go back easily after an ongoing pattern. It may not even be possible to go back at all. Sometimes, the other person will end the relationship after not being willing to continue working it out all the time.

How?

S literally stop. (Think about consequences as a motivator.)
T take a breathe. Slow down your reaction time. Give yourself time to be effective.
O observe how your body, mind and thoughts are reacting and want to continue reacting.
P proceed mindfully. What will help you problem solve by communicating/actions and what will you regret later on?

Connecting every dot won't be helpful to most of you. Understanding general ideas of what happened or how you were effec...
11/18/2025

Connecting every dot won't be helpful to most of you. Understanding general ideas of what happened or how you were effected can help.

You may want to focus on what's going on right now and how to work it through.

You may prefer to understand what situations resulted in you feeling unhealthy or unstable today.

Your challenge zone is not your danger zone.You may be pleasantly surprised by what you find when you get into your chal...
11/17/2025

Your challenge zone is not your danger zone.

You may be pleasantly surprised by what you find when you get into your challenge zone a bit more.

On the flipside, you'll never know if you don't try it.

"And it still didn't change," is something I see and hear so often.It is not about exploring what you need to do to make...
11/16/2025

"And it still didn't change," is something I see and hear so often.

It is not about exploring what you need to do to make the change because that can usually be logical.

The hard work is what is holding you back. That is emotional. That is deep.

It is easier for everyone around you to give you advice and tell you what they would do when they are not the ones in the situation.

When you have personality trait or situation (often combined) that results in you feeling so dissatisfied, unhappy and triggered, the hard work has to happen before the change.

Years of avoiding or accepting defeat don't undo themselves with the snap of the finger.

It's rough and tough and can feel like you are falling apart to do so.

Here's a way to challenge your thoughts: is there more hope going through the emotional turmoil then staying where you are now?

If you avoid going to hard places, this is for you.
11/13/2025

If you avoid going to hard places, this is for you.

25%? 70%?How much of your time do you spend making decisions because you worry what others will think of you?If you can ...
11/11/2025

25%? 70%?

How much of your time do you spend making decisions because you worry what others will think of you?

If you can answer, too much than I have another question for you. Can you be truly happy, when you are always thinking about what others will think?

❤️

Is it you?If you are constantly getting feedback from others directly or by others avoiding you, it would be a good time...
11/10/2025

Is it you?

If you are constantly getting feedback from others directly or by others avoiding you, it would be a good time to self reflect.

If there is one person or very few people in proportion to your circles, you are probably not the common denominator. Look at their circles to see how others respond to them and may avoid to help you gage the situation.

Do you see others functioning well and wonder how?They may have grown up1) differently than you2) done lots of work3) fa...
11/09/2025

Do you see others functioning well and wonder how?

They may have grown up

1) differently than you

2) done lots of work

3) faking it until they collapse

You are not alone if you feel so overwhelmed by thoughts and/or feelings.Read through for a skill you can try. ...
11/06/2025

You are not alone if you feel so overwhelmed by thoughts and/or feelings.

Read through for a skill you can try.

"In another minute." "Soon." "I'll get to it soon." How many times do you find yourself saying this throughout the day? ...
11/03/2025

"In another minute."

"Soon."

"I'll get to it soon."

How many times do you find yourself saying this throughout the day?

Big boundaries can be hard.

No.

I don't want you to concern yourself with this.

I don't want to go there with you.

I don't need to spend time speaking to you when you mistreat me.

I don't want you trying to change my mind.

Little boundaries can mean eating proper meals at proper times, limiting time on your electronics, delay answering a call or text and so much more.

Big boundaries are much easier to work on once you put yourself first and realize you are important!

 

Bottom line is that someone who is healthy won't be aggressive to begin with. Second bottom line is that someone who is ...
11/02/2025

Bottom line is that someone who is healthy won't be aggressive to begin with.

Second bottom line is that someone who is trying to grow internally will be able to have a conversation about their behaviors without getting upset or trying to twist what happened. They will also show pretty consistent change, even if it's slower than you hoped for, if they are growth oriented.

 

Bottom line is that someone who is healthy won't be aggressive to begin with.Second bottom line is that someone who is t...
11/02/2025

Bottom line is that someone who is healthy won't be aggressive to begin with.

Second bottom line is that someone who is trying to grow internally will be able to have a conversation about their behaviors without getting upset or trying to twist what happened. They will also show pretty consistent change, even if it's slower than you hoped for, if they are growth oriented.

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