Zahavah Fishfeld, LMHC

12/31/2025

What is with all the end of year recaps?

Here is to another day.

12/29/2025

Daily goals or yearly goals? Which is more helpful to you?

Do you try to do your best every day? If yes, why do we need an official time to summarize that you'll continue doing your best every day?

Comment daily if you agree.

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12/28/2025

Your gut knows what doesn't work.

For every minute or situation you can set a boundary, you may feel the contrast for when you can't.

It's scary to try. Can you try to set a boundary anyway?

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12/26/2025

It may be easier to see and believe someone else's life got better, than for you to think it can happen to you.

There are so many motivational speakers who have overcome so much. Lots of them. And there are even more people who have overcome challengimg times and don't speak publicly.

They once felt like you.

They didn't believe the if and how.

One day, something shifted.

And then they started to recognize baby steps.

With time, they saw real growth.

You can too.

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12/22/2025

It will feel right when you are in the right relationship. Boundaries will be accepted and understood by both sides as needs and not a negative imposition.

Here are some examples of what you or others may find uncomfortable:

You

*staying firm with your first short and to the point response
*letting someone know when they acted in a way you have told them doesn't work for you
*Saying no because you want to, even if you are questioning if that makes you into the bad guy

Them

*calling/texting a bunch of times if there isn't an answer
*someone asks you to wait and you keep trying to catch their attention while waiting
*being told no and trying to convince them otherwise

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12/21/2025

You can "you please" or you people please.

You can do what feels right for others. That can be time, money, choosing the words you say, etc.

Remember, you wake up with your thoughts and feelings and also go to sleep with them.

Let's make "you pleasing" happen.

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12/15/2025

There is effort and energy on your part preparing for a session.

After you show up, even if it's hard for you to do so, you may feel exhausted afterwards and have questions.

I'm encouraging you to talk to your therapist about them.

This is part of the work.

12/09/2025

And how much pain can one handle when the pain to heal can feel worse than just living with the existing pain?

How can you trust a therapist to help you heal when you have numbers of those who hurt you or tried to help you unsuccessfully?

Ask yourself this. Do you take chances ever? Running to catch a bus or plane you may miss? Trying a new recipe? Send out resumes to new job possibilities? Go on a date with a stranger?

I can go on and on. Bottom line is, if you take chances with so many things, is your future worth taking a chance on a well?

It may work and it may not but don't shut the idea down if you haven't tried.

12/08/2025

Are you worth their time?

Do they really want you in their life or are they are being nice?

How many of these thoughts have you had?

With a therapist it is not an equal relationship and the expectations are different.

However, these thoughts may still come up for you with your therapist, feelings of abandonment and questioning how important you really are to them.

12/06/2025

You may need a gentle nudge.

You may need to remind yourself it is easier to find reasons change isn't happening then to see where you can step up and take steps towards it.

Here's to no more "I can't" and off to "How can I?"

12/04/2025

Don't chase the wrong people.

Don't shut down from the right people.

Don't say you don't have anyone before really looking.

Don't give up on yourself because even if you had those feelings of self worth taken from you, or so you thought, nobody really has that kind of control over you.

Don't forget those who would be here for you today if you allowed them to be.

12/01/2025