02/06/2026
I’m going to be very honest about this one.
I didn’t get perfect before photos.
Mom and I were talking.
I forgot.
And honestly… this story matters way more than perfect pictures ever could.
This was a kid who had stopped wanting to sleep in his own room.
Not because he’s lazy.
Not because he’s messy.
Not because he’s “one of those kids.”
Because his brain couldn’t rest in here anymore.
And during the purge — working side by side with him —
I could tell something very clearly:
This was learned behavior.
Not in a blame way.
Not in a shame way.
In a this-is-how-humans-learn-to-live way.
He wasn’t just keeping things because he loved them.
He was keeping things because he thought he was supposed to.
Because somewhere along the way, he learned that memories live inside objects.
He hesitated to donate things because he thought his parents might want them.
He kept things because they reminded him of a moment.
Not because he used them.
Not because he needed them.
Because they represented something.
And I told his parents something with a lot of love and a lot of truth:
Kids do not become who we tell them to be.
They become what they watch us do.
If everything gets saved…
They learn to save everything.
If stuff equals memories…
They learn to protect stuff like it’s emotional security.
And here’s the part that makes people uncomfortable:
If something truly matters —
It should be out.
It should be seen.
It should be used.
It should be talked about.
Not hidden in bins.
Not stacked in attics.
Not buried in basements like emotional storage units.
Because memories do not live in things.
They live in people.
And when we finished…
You could feel the shift in that room.
More floor.
Less noise.
Less pressure.
And when a kid can walk into their space and their nervous system doesn’t feel like it has to stay on high alert…
That’s when you start getting your kid back.
Also — side note that meant a lot to me —
This was the first time in a minute Uliania and I worked together as our original duo again.
No talking.
No explaining.
Just knowing.
Just moving.
Just doing what we do best.
This is why we do this.
Not for perfect photos.
Not for internet rooms.
For real kids.
Real families.
Real life change.
More Than Just Organization.™