10/16/2025
💡 The hardest thing no one tells you about parenting:
🍼 When you have your first baby, you take classes on infant CPR, changing diapers, maybe surviving labor. We have registries and showers filled with pacifiers and sleep sacks.
🧐 But when does anyone talk about the real **work**? I would trade all those new onesies for someone telling me that there is a lot of emotion regulation, intentionality, skill building, and reflection that needs to happen as a baseline for US (as parents/caregivers) before we even think about working on skills with our kids.
3️⃣ Are you familiar with this trifecta?
1. You are trying to regulate yourself
2. You are trying to problem solve a solution to whatever is making your kid spiral
3. Your kid is spiraling. And you are juggling all three of these things at once.
And NO ONE teaches you how to do this. And then you f*ck up. And then you shame spiral because you should know better, but here’s the thing:
⭐️ You can’t do better if you don’t do the work. We can pay thousands of dollars for therapy for our kids behavior modification, but nothing changes if *we* don’t change.
💪 The work is on us: it’s not our child’s problem that we don’t have these skills. It’s on us to take the initiative to reparent, to build our lagging skills, to seek the mental health support that we need and to commit to this day after day. It’s the hardest thing to face, but we also have the potential to make the biggest impact of all.
It’s time to do the work.
What does the work look like for you? ⬇️⬇️⬇️
