ADHD with Angie

ADHD with Angie Advanced Certified ADHD Life Coach. Proud ADHD’er. Host of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast.

Stop apologizing. They're not really mad at you; THEY’RE MAD AT THE TRUTH.As ADHD Scapegoats, we are conditioned to cons...
11/25/2025

Stop apologizing. They're not really mad at you; THEY’RE MAD AT THE TRUTH.

As ADHD Scapegoats, we are conditioned to constantly scan for ways we "SHOULD" apologize, shrink, or manage the abuser's emotional response. Their outrage is designed to send us right back into a guilt spiral.

They're not mad because you were wrong.
They're mad because your clarity is the greatest threat to their fake reality.
Their rage is not a sign of your failure.
It’s proof of your accuracy.

➡️ Swipe through & use these truths as data points.
The moment you understand that their anger confirms your value, the manipulation stops working.

🙋‍♀️ Ready to stop "should-ing" all over yourself?
If you're tired of sacrificing your sanity to keep their fragile peace, it's time to set boundaries that protect your non-negotiable worth. 🧠

Tell me: Which slide hit you the hardest today? 👇

11/24/2025

ADHD brains feel boundary violations fast — emotional flooding hits before we even know what’s happening. That impulse to react isn’t a flaw… it’s a nervous system on overload. But there’s power in learning the pause. 🌬️

Whether it's stepping out of the room, saying “I need a minute,” or just grabbing water for a reset — these tiny micro-boundaries build emotional regulation and protect your peace. This is how ADHDers turn chaos into clarity, one pause at a time.

🚀 "Please give me space, or I may want to travel to another planet to get far enough away from you." 👩‍🚀 You think that...
11/24/2025

🚀 "Please give me space, or I may want to travel to another planet to get far enough away from you." 👩‍🚀

You think that's dramatic?
This exaggerated statement is necessary when you're a highly sensitive ADHD Scapegoat who is constantly forced to "should" all over yourself just to manage another person's complete inability to show basic human decency.

My request for space isn't a power play. It's a non-negotiable directive to reinstall common sense & respect into the relationship. If you can't honor that boundary, you are confirming that your temporary comfort is more important than my entire nervous system.

Your drama is not my responsibility. Period. ✌️

Your integrity is not a mistake. 💜 Stop apologizing for setting the basic conditions required for your survival & sanity...
11/23/2025

Your integrity is not a mistake. 💜

Stop apologizing for setting the basic conditions required for your survival & sanity.
They want you to feel guilty for making healthy choices for yourself. They even equate that to you being "selfish".

Your only job is to protect your peace.
Say it with me: No more apologies for my truth. 🧠 🐐

11/20/2025

If you feel guilty for setting a totally reasonable boundary, that’s not your voice — that’s the abuser’s conditioning still calling the shots. 💥
Trauma survivors are taught to apologize for needing basic decency, and to carry the entire weight of the relationship. Not anymore. Today is the end of the “should.” You deserve boundaries without shame, fear, or guilt. ✨

11/20/2025

Episode 56: Holding Your Boundaries Without SHOULDing All Over Yourself

Ever feel guilty for setting a perfectly reasonable boundary? 🤔 You're not alone! In this episode, we're tackling the insidious "should" statements that keep trauma survivors and ADHD scapegoats trapped in cycles of guilt and people-pleasing.

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They weren’t confused. They chose denial. They didn't apologize. They chose projection.They didn't take accountability. ...
11/20/2025

They weren’t confused.
They chose denial.

They didn't apologize.
They chose projection.

They didn't take accountability.
They chose to protect the lie instead of face the truth.

That behavior tells you everything you need to know about their character.

Your job isn’t to fix them or even give them another chance. Some things really are unforgivable.

It's your job to protect yourself.
Walking away isn’t petty or dramatic.
It’s self-respect. It’s sanity. It’s survival.

If you’ve been made the villain for telling the truth, you’re not the problem - you’re the threat that exposes their lie. 🧠 🐐

Choose you. Every time. 💜

11/19/2025

The Truth About The Scared Narcissist.

They love to threaten, slander & lie, forgetting ONE important thing: Never try to mess up someone else's life with a lie when yours can be destroyed with the truth.

Their entire reputation is being held together by lies - and they attack the person who knows the truth, rather than attempting to befriend them⁉️

Let that sink in.

Maybe - "If you quit telling lies about me, I won't tell the truth about you." 🎤 Credit: Mitchell Tenpenny

If you've ever had a toxic person lie about their past, wondered why your family plays devil's advocate with the 😈 or f...
11/19/2025

If you've ever had a toxic person lie about their past, wondered why your family plays devil's advocate with the 😈 or felt completely confused after speaking the truth because it seems like no one around you wants to live in reality... these are for you. Let the truth set you free. Dive in!

They Were Meant to Respond DifferentlyThis is the ultimate truth about isolation after abuse, courtesy of :1. They were...
11/19/2025

They Were Meant to Respond Differently

This is the ultimate truth about isolation after abuse, courtesy of
:
1. They weren't believed when they spoke up.
2. People openly protected/befriended their perpetrator.

"You weren't meant to say it differently.
They were meant to respond differently.”

You weren't crazy. You weren't wrong.
You simply offered the truth to people who chose their own comfort over your safety.

Your integrity was never the problem.
Their response was straight up betrayal.

Stop blaming your voice & start mourning their choice. 💜

11/18/2025

When I trusted my intuition and sought the truth, I broke the unspoken family rule: stay in your place and don’t question anything. 🧩 In narcissistic or toxic families, autonomy is rebellion—and truth is treated like betrayal. But when things don’t add up, it’s usually because the truth isn’t part of the equation. ⚡️

🙈 The Choice of Blind Loyalty 🙈 You presented a loved one with valid, objective information -something that caused you d...
11/18/2025

🙈 The Choice of Blind Loyalty 🙈
You presented a loved one with valid, objective information -something that caused you deep concern for their safety.

Their response? Silence. Ghosting. Defensiveness. Zero curiosity about the information you have to share with them.

This is often what happens:
The abuser gives them the preemptive explanation - their manufactured "side of the story" - before you even speak.
Once that story is lodged, your facts are automatically treated as an attack.

The irrationality of that choice:
Why would a loved one refuse to look at the information causing you distress?
Why are they instantly trusting the abuser's defensive narrative over your genuine concern?

It's simple: They are choosing blind loyalty over critical thinking.

It's easier right now to choose to do nothing.
Curiosity requires action, confrontation, & the admission that the abuser could be lying to you.
Blind loyalty is the temporary path of least resistance.

They aren't trying to protect you from the facts. They are trying to protect the abuser's story from being challenged & you being able to make a choice that will be best for you.

The Scapegoat’s truth is dangerous to them. They are willing to prioritize the abuser's comfort over your safety because your truth - your validated worry - dismantles the peace they have chosen to buy with silence.

The lack of curiosity is the final piece of evidence you need. They are choosing to be willfully ignorant of your pain & your data. Your truth is non-negotiable, even if they refuse to look at it.

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