02/02/2026
As a Jew in diaspora, and a Jew who grieves over the loss of Palestinian lives, my connection to land is always fraught with tension.
As a child, Tu B’Shevat, the birthday of trees, was connected to earth stewardship, but also to planting trees in Israel, about reclaiming the land of my ancestors, a land I’d never been to, but was told was mine.
As an adult, I walk an uneasy tightrope, trying to find a place that reflects, not only my ethnospiritual heritage, but my personal values…a place that feels like home, thousands of miles from Jerusalem.
There is Israel the modern nation state, but there is also Israel the people, whose very name means to question, to wrestle with G-d and big ideas. I am dubious of allegiance to any and all nation states, but my heart longs for Israel, the PEOPLE, who found homes in every corner of the globe. My heart longs for a community that says that they are Jews who question…gender roles, lineage, practice, and our relationship to land, community, and home.
Last night, I attended my first Tu B’Shevat Seder (ritual meal) with . The kabbalistic holiday reflects on 4 realms, 4 elements, four kinds of fruits with different natures, and we drink 4 cups of different kinds of that represent the thawing process of winter. We are invited to examine our relationship with nature, spirit, community, and ourselves.
We cried out for immigrants, for Palestinians, for trans folks. We asked for ❤️’s to thaw.
It was comfortably casual, yet deeply meaningful. Blue jeans and a heart cracked open. Potluck and Tikkun Olam (repairing the world).
On Tu B’Shevat we honor the first rising of sap in the trees. What are we nurturing? Planting? Growing? Where? If we foster community can we become Israel, the people, anywhere? Can we reach for the sun like desert date palms (the meaning of my name, Tamara)even in the Buffalo snow? I think we can. Jerusalem is a place in our hearts. Judaism is an evolving, embodied, living tradition and always has been. We create home wherever we are…like our ancestors before us. We grow trees of empathy and compassion and shared humanity. Amen.