Become YOUR Happy LLC

02/23/2026

Another good one about relationships

02/13/2026

Oh yes!!!

02/12/2026

Just watched this video and was impressed with how easily he teaches concepts. This one is about anger.

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/177gnT23Bq/?mibextid=wwXIfr

01/28/2026

And this goes right along with the one I just posted :)

When you’re emotionally overwhelmed, your instinct might be to push through it, analyze it, or fix it right away. For a lot of people, that only makes things worse.

Thoughts speed up.
Emotions intensify.
Your body stays tense.

So how do you regulate your nervous system?

This is where a DBT skill called distraction with enjoyable activities comes in. And despite how simple it sounds, it’s often misunderstood.

Distraction technique used in DBT isn’t about avoidance, it’s about regulation.

What’s Actually Happening When You’re Overwhelmed

When emotions are high, your nervous system is in survival mode. Your brain is prioritizing threat, urgency, and protection. In that state, insight, reflection, and emotional processing are limited.

Trying to “figure it out” while you’re flooded is like trying to think clearly in the middle of a fire alarm. The system needs to settle first.

DBT recognizes this and offers distraction as a temporary regulation tool, not a long-term escape. Distraction is used as a short-term skill when emotions are too intense to process in the moment.

The goal isn’t to ignore your feelings. The goal is to help your system calm enough so those feelings don’t take over everything. Reset your nervous system.

When your nervous system is calmer, you’re better able to:
• Reflect instead of react
• Name what you’re actually feeling
•Decide what needs attention and what doesn’t

01/28/2026

I try to teach this a lot, but don't do a great job. LOVE how simple and clear she makes this!

As a holistic, trauma-focused psychotherapist, I help you heal old wounds through emotional regulation, nurturing mind, body, spirit, and heart.”

01/07/2026

I so agree with this explanation

HOW TO PROCESS YOUR FEELINGS (Without Being Controlled by Them)

Feelings are not problems to fix.
They are messages to understand.

Most suffering doesn’t come from emotions themselves —
it comes from resisting them, suppressing them, or becoming lost inside them.

Here’s how to process your feelings with awareness, not avoidance:

1. PAUSE
Before reacting, pause.

Take a breath.
Slow your body down.

This pause creates space between what you feel and what you do.
In that space, wisdom can arise.

In Buddhism, this moment of pause is mindfulness —
the ability to see clearly instead of acting blindly.

Not every emotion needs an immediate response.
Some only need your attention.

2. NAME IT
Give the feeling a name.

Anger.
Sadness.
Fear.
Disappointment.
Joy.

Naming an emotion takes away its power to overwhelm you.
What is named becomes observed, not possessed.

You are not “angry.”
Anger is arising within you.

This subtle shift reminds you:
You are the observer, not the emotion.

3. FEEL IT (WITHOUT JUDGMENT)
Sit with the emotion instead of pushing it away.

Don’t label it as good or bad.
Don’t rush to escape it.
Don’t shame yourself for feeling it.

Feelings are like waves —
they rise, peak, and fall if you don’t fight them.

In Buddhist practice, this is equanimity:
allowing what is, without clinging or aversion.

What you resist persists.
What you allow, softens.

4. ASK WHY
Gently explore the root.

What triggered this feeling?
What expectation was unmet?
What attachment was touched?

Often, emotions reveal hidden truths —
unhealed wounds, unmet needs, or false stories we tell ourselves.

This is not about blaming yourself or others.
It’s about understanding.

Awareness turns pain into insight.

5. RELEASE
Once understood, let it move through you.

Breathe deeply.
Write it out.
Speak to someone you trust.
Sit quietly and watch it fade.

Feelings are energy.
If they are not expressed or released, they become stored tension.

Release does not mean forgetting.
It means not carrying unnecessary weight.

6. SHIFT
After release, gently redirect your energy.

Toward calm.
Toward kindness.
Toward something constructive.

Not as an escape —
but as a conscious choice.

This is wisdom in action:
choosing peace over rumination, growth over repetition.

FINAL TRUTH.

Feelings are temporary guests.
They come to teach, not to stay forever.

Suffering begins when you cling.
Freedom begins when you observe, understand, and let go.

You don’t need to control your emotions.
You need to befriend them — and know when to let them leave.

🧘‍♂️ Nothing that arises is meant to be held onto forever.

12/10/2025

I love this post!!!

Most of us try to ignore, bury, or fight our emotions. But every feeling you experience—pleasant or painful—is carrying a message. When you learn to listen, you begin to heal, grow, and transform.

Here’s what your emotions may actually be trying to tell you:

🔴 Fear
Fear isn’t always a warning to run away. Sometimes it’s a signal that you’re standing on the edge of powerful change. Instead of resisting, allow the energy of transformation to flow through you. Growth begins where comfort ends.

🔴 Anxiety
Anxiety often comes from trying to control things that were never meant to be controlled. Life becomes lighter when you release the grip, breathe deeply, and trust that things will unfold the way they’re meant to.

🔴 Guilt
Guilt means you’re holding on to the past with clenched fists. You deserve forgiveness—from yourself more than anyone else. Letting go doesn’t erase the past; it sets you free from it.

🔴 Helplessness
You don’t have to be strong every second of your life. Feeling helpless is a reminder that humans are not meant to walk alone. Allow support, love, and care to enter. Strength also lies in receiving.

🔴 Confusion
When the old has ended but the new hasn’t begun, your mind shakes. Confusion is simply the space between chapters. Give yourself time—clarity always arrives after the fog.

🔴 Despair
Even when it feels like there is no way forward, remember: breaking points often become turning points. Despair is sometimes the soil where a new path is born.

🔴 Emptiness
Feeling empty means you’ve drifted away from your inner self. It’s not a failure—it’s an invitation to return home. Reconnect, realign, and rebuild from within.

🔴 Regret
Regret whispers that you believe you could’ve done better. But the truth is—you did what you knew at the time. Take the lesson, not the burden. Release the past so it doesn’t steal your present.

🔴 Insecurity
Insecurity arises when you’re afraid of losing something precious. Remind yourself: what is truly yours will stay. What isn’t will make space for something better.

🔴 Resentment
Resentment is often the result of giving too much and receiving too little. If you feel this way, it’s time to set boundaries—not out of anger, but out of self-respect.

🔴 Envy
Envy doesn’t make you a bad person. It highlights the desires sleeping inside you. Instead of comparing, use it as a compass pointing toward your own dreams.

🔴 Anger
Anger is your inner voice saying, “This is not okay.” It’s a sign that your boundaries have been crossed. Listen to that voice—honour it, understand it, and protect your peace.

Your emotions aren’t weaknesses. They’re signals. They’re teachers. They’re guides.
Pay attention to them, and they will lead you back to yourself.

If this touched you today, let it remind you:
You’re human. You’re growing. You’re evolving.
And every emotion is part of your journey. ❤️

03/15/2024

Nice brief article on how to deal with anger, well done!

We're often taught to repress our feelings and behave nicely. But anger has a biological purpose, and psychologists say it's healthier to embrace it. Here are four steps for working with anger.

06/21/2023

An important note for us all 🙏🏼

On current choices 🤍

A reminder that there’s so much inner wisdom, self-knowledge & beauty that can unfurl in these moments of self reflection, self connection & self awareness. What are you choosing today? 🤍

Reposted 🔁 and created 🎨 by the amazing .e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e

06/21/2023

This showed up for me today, and it was a great read... with great suggestions for healthy communication. Especially after I just had a community employee interaction where He was gaslighting me over an issue, lol. I absolutely believe he did it unconsciously to avoid taking ownership of the problem.

Gaslighting isn’t always a conscious form of behavior in relationships: it may manifest itself without you being fully aware of it.

05/24/2023

I happened upon this 12 minute exercise video and thought I would share, because it is a great guided meditation kinda thing about being in touch with difficult feelings. It is very similar to SE and other mindful body scan type things, but this comes from the ACT theory, which seems to have a lot of similarities and overlaps. :)

ACT exercise in Expansion and making room for difficult feelings

04/24/2023

This is great!

Love this super clear info on from