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03/15/2024

Nice brief article on how to deal with anger, well done!

We're often taught to repress our feelings and behave nicely. But anger has a biological purpose, and psychologists say it's healthier to embrace it. Here are four steps for working with anger.

06/21/2023

An important note for us all 🙏🏼

On current choices 🤍

A reminder that there’s so much inner wisdom, self-knowledge & beauty that can unfurl in these moments of self reflection, self connection & self awareness. What are you choosing today? 🤍

Reposted 🔁 and created 🎨 by the amazing .e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e

06/21/2023

This showed up for me today, and it was a great read... with great suggestions for healthy communication. Especially after I just had a community employee interaction where He was gaslighting me over an issue, lol. I absolutely believe he did it unconsciously to avoid taking ownership of the problem.

Gaslighting isn’t always a conscious form of behavior in relationships: it may manifest itself without you being fully aware of it.

05/24/2023

I happened upon this 12 minute exercise video and thought I would share, because it is a great guided meditation kinda thing about being in touch with difficult feelings. It is very similar to SE and other mindful body scan type things, but this comes from the ACT theory, which seems to have a lot of similarities and overlaps. :)

ACT exercise in Expansion and making room for difficult feelings

04/24/2023

This is great!

Love this super clear info on from

04/06/2023

I always love her stuff. Here is some on parenting.

Q: Are bear cubs in Canada cared for in the same way bear cubs are cared for in the United States? 🤔

A: OF COURSE THEY ARE!!

This 🔺 is the missing piece for humanity.

There is no standardized, accepted way to 'parent' because our higher brain, culture, conditioning, & all the other 'things' GET IN THE WAY.

Being slowly bleached from our internal (maternal & paternal) wisdom has poisoned us.

BUT: when you reverse engineer this, by looking at what it takes to heal an adult human who has a dysregulation in their nervous system (aka: trauma) due to mis-attuned and/or abusive parenting – in other words, a human who was was NOT parented in the way a bear cub would be, with safety, feeding on demand, unconditional love, & the teaching of essential 'life' skills – you see that the recipe, the algorithm if you will, is the same across the board:

🐻 Education
🐻 Capacity building
🐻 Somatic awareness
🐻 Moving out OLD survival stress patterns (aka: fight, flight, freeze energies)

Then from here:

🍒 Cellular safety lands for the first time
🍒 The desire for connection and comradery sprouts
🍒 Self-care is intuitive

All this creates empathy for self and others.

The result: world peace & a new humanity.

The humanity that is possible.

The adults need to learn this, to heal this, so they can care for – future and existing – humans the right way. And, make no mistake…

THERE IS A RIGHT WAY. ✅

To learn more, check out my older article titled ‘If we could get this right, world peace would be a reality.’

>> https://irenelyon.com/2016/11/24/get-right-world-peace-reality/

02/01/2023

ALways love her stuff, a great reminder and image!

Here is your end of January reminder to be kind to yourself and invitation to practice it as often as you can. 💕

The Power of Being King to Yourself 🙏🏽

• More and more research is showing that self-compassion is a key to living a h life.
• Self-compassion is a source of strength and resilience

The 3 Elements of Self-Compassion:
1️⃣ Self Kindness: we are as caring towards ourselves as we are to others
2️⃣ Recognizing Our Common Humanity: When we understand that we are not alone in our pain through a moment of connection with others and that it is a part of the shared human experience
3️⃣ Mindfulness: Being open to the reality of the present moment [yes, you are here], acknowledging our suffering without exaggerating it

Graphic created by the amazing Johnine Byrne from See Your Words 🙏🏽

12/17/2022

I’ve always loved her work. This looks like some fantastic resources on dealing with anger better!

Did you know that being able to express anger and healthy aggression (naturally) is one of the KEY pieces for helping heal depression?

Depression while seen in the past as a 'mental' issue, or a chemical imbalance 'in the brain,' inherently stems from the somatic physiology being in a shutdown/collapsed state. This is what happens after one is stuck in fight, flight, and then freeze for too long (often an entire childhood, infancy, maybe teenage years too) - the system cannot maintain high levels of survival energy forever, so it does the next best thing for survival and it goes to conservation mode and it gets 'depressed.'

This, 'depression,' is the pushing down of so much - not just emotion, but old traumatic and protective survival movements like needing to escape, scream, and move high energy out. 😱

There is a lot of talk about helping improve mental health via meditation, gratitude, breathwork, journaling, talking to someone, love, light, etc., but, if one does not get to the root of these survival energies (fight, flight, freeze), then all the self-care practices I just mentioned, while great at times, will not help cultivate the capacity to feel safe and strong in releasing those mama, papa, and baby bear roars (that fight energy that never got to release).

Our animal nature must come through so our human nature can find peace and ease. ☮️

I have many resources via my YouTube videos and blog posts around this topic. If you want to learn more, I suggest starting with my YouTube Playlist that is titled: The Importance of Anger & Healthy Aggression. There you'll find 7 videos of varying lengths, some vlogs, some long-form Q&A's, all on this topic.

➡️ Click over to begin your learning journey around anger and healthy aggression: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_tIcR-r0CU4aEem6-uLPRUyZL9ZM7oqj

Get that 'roar' back and heal. 🐻

Irene.

11/15/2022

This is well thought out and worth the read!

I’d like to share with you my new approach to self-care that aims to satisfy our deepest needs rather than providing short-lived comfort.