04/24/2026
[ OCD đ]
When those intrusive thoughts pop in and you wanna ruminate or do the other compulsion, and you try your absolute hardest to shut that sh*t down, and it doesnât work, again⊠donât just keep trying.
Donât try harder to shut them out, push them away, neutralize them, ignore them, reassure them, appease them, whatever it is. Trying harder to shut down thoughts and compulsions is like throwing wood on a fire and hoping it will go out. Every response is reaffirming that it is a big deal, encouraging it to come back.
Maybe itâs time to try something different.
And listen, I know itâs not easy. Iâm not saying the solution is to just stop. Hereâs the thing- thereâs a lot of bad or lacking information out there about OCD. Too often I find myself talking with someone who thought they were doing the best thing for themselves by trying to throw a âbad thoughtâ in the trash, and had no idea just trying harder wasnât going to work. And maybe even worse, had no idea it wasnât their fault.
If this resonates with you, and youâve been doing all you can to stop a behavior or rumination or certain thoughts from coming in and causing a big reaction⊠it might be time to try something different.
Because there are things that can help! And you deserve to understand them and be supported while you practice doing something difficult and scary. Really.
It might be time to do a little research on OCD (IOCDF.org is a good place) and/or reach out to a therapist well trained in working with OCD.