Tori Palliccia, LMFT

11/19/2025

When you approach someone with the story you’ve created on your mind, you automatically put them on the defense without truly knowing if your story is true. When you ask questions and approach with curiosity, it allows them to explain without the defensiveness so you can get the true story without feelings being ignited and starting a fight. Curiosity will save you from a lot of unnecessary drama.

10/21/2025

08/21/2025

I hope you can bring your walls down some day ❤️.

08/18/2025

What did you need growing up that you didn’t get? That’s still what you need.

08/15/2025

Were you conditioned to take the blame and apologize? Do you find yourself gaslighting yourself a lot? Are you drawn to people that make you question your reality? Do you take blame that isn’t yours? If so, your growth comes from learning to trust yourself and your truth, being able to sort out what’s yours to own and what’s not, and having really strong boundaries with people that try to mess with your mind. Work on rejecting that voice in your head that tries to rationalize other people’s sh*tty behavior and call it what it is.

08/11/2025

These are two of the most important things to have in a healthy relationship. How close can you let your partner get to you? How much do they know about the struggles you battle in your mind? What keeps you from sharing? How much security do feel? Do you know undoubtedly they are in to you or do you have to wonder because they are inconsistent? Do you know that they will have your back when you need it? Without these things, there will always be something missing. The truth is some people are perfectly OK with that so you have to decide what’s important to you in your dating and relationship life. And this isn’t just about romantic relationships, this is about friendships and family as well.

08/11/2025

08/07/2025

Shame is the prison of our minds.
It tells us our worth is defined by our worst moments. It keeps us silent, afraid that if anyone really knew us, they’d walk away.

Some carry shame that never belonged to them. It came from what others did, said, or failed to protect.

Others carry shame for what they didn’t do; not speaking up, not leaving sooner, not setting boundaries, or what they didn’t accomplish in their lives.

And some carry shame for what they did do. The harm they caused. The things they regret. The choices they made while hurting or lost.

Our mistakes are not meant to be life sentences. Shame grows in silence. Healing begins when we speak it.

08/07/2025

Choose the people that respond to your needs. te

08/06/2025

Where do you fall in this category? Do you struggle with letting people take care of you and getting close to your heart and mind? Is it easier for you to love them and give them the love that you actually need? So many people crave that feeling of being loved but don’t know how to let it happen. It requires allowing for vulnerability and letting your guard down. What stops you from letting people love you?

07/19/2025

So many people give their power away in dating in hopes that they will be liked and chosen. The anxiety of being chosen can cause us to ignore our own needs, causing anxiety to intensify. This doesn’t build connection, safety does. You get to decide what you want out of relationships and whether that person is good for you or not. You’ll know you’ve grown when you stop worrying about whether they choose you and decide if you choose them. No more giving your power away. . recovery

07/15/2025

Dating is harder than ever these days. It’s not just competing with other people, it’s about competing with someone’s demons. There are some people who simply aren’t emotionally healthy enough to give you what you need because of the battles they’re still fighting within themselves. This is not an invitation for the caregivers out there to try harder. Loving someone’s wounds won’t make them love you back in the way you need because you can’t love the demons out of someone who hasn’t chosen to face them. All it will do is leave you depleted and questioning your worth.

And for those who feel rejected and wonder why they aren’t enough, please hear this, it’s not about you, it’s about the battles they’re fighting within themselves.

Sometimes love isn’t enough to heal someone who isn’t ready to heal. And that’s not your fault.