03/14/2025
I always thought that I was the problem.
If I could just eat less, exercise more, and stick to the plan, then I’d finally lose the weight (and keep it off).
Then I wouldn’t feel so awful about my body.
Then I’d stop picking apart everything I saw in the mirror.
Then when I finally hit my goal weight, I’d be happy, comfortable, and confident.
So I kept trying… and trying… and trying.
And for years, nothing changed.
Here’s what I wish I had learned sooner:
❌ My body wasn’t the issue.
❌ My eating habits weren’t the issue.
❌ I was not the issue.
Rather, it was society’s impossible standards placed on women’s bodies.
And once I started letting go of the belief that thinner automatically meant better, I could finally eat in a way that supported my well-being.
I could start living my life in a way that I wouldn’t look back on with regret.
Does this mean I love myself every single day? Nope, I’m human.
But now, when those negative thoughts creep in, I don’t let them take over.
I acknowledge them, process them, and move forward instead of spiraling.
And the fact is that my body is going to keep changing as I get older.
That doesn’t make me more or less worthy. It’s just part of life.
So I will keep doing my best to treat my body with kindness, understanding, and respect.
And in a society that tries to shame me and make me feel unworthy as a fitness and nutrition coach simply because I don’t fit a certain mold, I will keep showing up.
I refuse to let outdated societal standards tell me what my body (or that of my clients) should look like.
Yes, making this shift in thinking is hard.
Becoming body neutral takes time.
And that’s OK.
When you’re ready to challenge those standards too, I’m here to support you.
Rooting for you❣️