Camille Ellis Life Coach

03/02/2026

Trust is everything in grief and trauma work.

Not surface-level trust.
Not “I’ll try this and see.”

The kind of trust that lives in the nervous system.

When someone comes to me for grief and trauma coaching, they’re not just sharing a story. They’re bringing a body that may not feel safe. Parts of themselves that learned to survive. A history of rupture. Sometimes even fear of being helped.

Trust isn’t built by pushing for vulnerability.
It’s built by honoring pace.
By respecting “no.”
By staying steady.
By not rushing the process.

In trauma work:
Insight isn’t the goal. Regulation is.
Catharsis isn’t the goal. Integration is.
Speed isn’t the goal. Safety is.

Especially in grief — healing happens at the speed of trust.

We don’t force.
We don’t fix.
We don’t override the body.

We co-create safety.
And from safety, healing unfolds.

If you’re navigating grief or trauma, you deserve support that feels steady — not pressured.

And if you’re a practitioner: trust is the intervention.

02/25/2026

Hey everyone, check out my interview on The Deep Voice Man Show podcast!

I had a great time working with Luke! I hope you enjoy listening 😃👇🏼
https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/DZ5yHFGm20b

02/23/2026

The hidden cost of being busy…

Busy has become a personality trait.

Full calendar. Always on. Always needed.

But busy is also a pattern.

One I’ve been actively working to shift.

Instead of saying “I’m so busy,” I ask:
“How can I fit this into my life?”

That small shift changes everything.
From pressure ➝ possibility.
From chaos ➝ design.

I’m ambitious. I love doing a lot. I love structure. I can “do the math” and make it all fit.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

If I want to sustain ambition, I have to protect stillness.

Without calm, busy turns into depletion.
Without pause, productivity starts costing your health.

The goal isn’t to stop achieving.
It’s to expand what achievement means.

✨ Living by your values
✨ Protecting your energy
✨ Nurturing relationships
✨ Feeling joy — not just checking boxes

We all have:
• A public life
• A personal life
• A private inner life
• A relationship life

If one takes over, balance disappears.

Start small:
Take a walk without your phone.
Go to bed earlier.
Sit in silence for 5 minutes.
Reconnect to yourself.

Busy doesn’t have to mean burned out.

It can mean intentional.

Question for you:
Are you running your time — or is your time running you?

02/20/2026

Grief and trauma show up for everyone in many different situations.

You can manage it and use it to learn, see the beauty in the lesson of every experience.

This is growth and development.

Give yourself the art of pause to refocus on what you want to see to be in the moment and develop your mindfulness.

Love yourself first so you can be loving.

02/18/2026

I’m proud to be apart of the Holistic Chamber of Commerce again this year! It’s a great group of leaders in their field 🌟

02/16/2026

There’s a 3 year old in all of us! Remember the innocence and all the joy! These two bring it out in me, so much fun, love and laughter ♥️

02/15/2026

This was a first for me, horse back riding at Pleasure Point in the rain! So fun to see! I love Santa Cruz 🌊🐳🐬🐴☀️

02/13/2026

Love.

We all want to receive love.
But how we give love is just as important.

So much of what we believe about love was formed in childhood—what we saw, what we felt, and what we were taught.

My parents weren’t great at expressing love. As a child, I chose to believe they loved me because I learned from the outside world that parents love their children. As I grew older, I could articulate it more clearly: they loved me as best they could. They were never taught how to express it—maybe they were never shown themselves.

As an adult, I chose how I wanted to express love. Sometimes I succeeded. Sometimes I didn’t. I like to think I’m getting better with practice.

When I became a parent, I wanted to love my children in the way I wished I had been loved. And still—I missed the mark. Just like my parents did. Doing the best I knew how at the time.

That realization brings me so much forgiveness.
I know in my heart and soul my parents never meant to hurt me.

We all have a love language. Learning someone else’s takes curiosity, communication, and compassion.

If you’ve never read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, I highly recommend it.

Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch

When we understand how we receive love—and how others experience it—we create deeper connection.

And if we choose to meet life’s obstacles from a place of love, we feel more whole, more centered, and more at peace.

As Byron Katie says, “Love what is.”
It really does make life easier.

XO
Camille

👉 What love language helps you feel most loved?

02/09/2026

Here’s your emotional regulation playbook:

Know your triggers
→ What gets under your skin? Track it.

Insert a pause
→ No replies in the heat. Time buys clarity.

Reframe fast
→ Maybe they’re stressed. Maybe it’s not personal.

Delay your sends
→ 10-response rule = protection

Breathe before reacting
→ No wisdom comes from a hijacked nervous system.

Respond like a leader
→ Clarity. Calm. No drama.

🧠 Real power is restraint.
Anyone can react. Few people choose to respond.

Which one do you need most this week?

02/02/2026

01/31/2026

My fire was fueled with these cutes yesterday ♥️ Grand twins are so fun!