05/28/2022
My sweet boy has been sick. So I went to his room to check his temperature and when I flipped the lights on my heart fell. This subject is something I've never really touched on Facebook but tonight I'm going to because I see so many parents going through the same thing.
"Dear parent who chooses addiction over your
child(ren).. I say this to you. It's not something they will"get over" or "understand." It is the heaviest of burdens that they will carry around in their little hearts every single day. They may go months, weeks or years without muttering the sound of your name. Those months, weeks, or years, always seem to be eventually followed by the dreaded days filled with the heavy questions of why's and how comes? Days that your child places blame on the present parent for your absence. Days they place blame on themselves. Understand that every day your choices affect their little lives far greater than you choose to understand. To the parent that is there day in and day out... I ask
this of you. Even though you may want to, don't belittle the absent parent. Explain to your child it's okay to love and miss that absent parent. Explain to them that sometimes good people make bad choices. Explain that hating or being angry at that absent parent does nothing but steals their joy. That the ONLY thing that can stop their hurt is praying for themselves and that absent parent. Teach them there is a correct and incorrect way to show love. Then explain to them that sometimes the people we love, love us incorrectly. That just because you extend grace to those people through prayer it is okay to demand to be loved correctly and not accept their incorrect love. That their parent's absence does not define the love they deserve.”
-Signed by a present parent who's child cares far more about the addict than the addiction