04/25/2026
Some births leave you feeling really wrecked physically, emotionally, and mentally.
I work with a lot of moms whose bodies needed far more recovery than they expected. There were significant tears, complications, follow-up appointments, and sometimes months of physical therapy just to start feeling like themselves again.
And all of that was happening while they were also trying to care for a newborn.
At the same time, their mind keeps going back to the birth. Not in a nostalgic way, but to the parts that felt overwhelming, out of control, or honestly just not okay.
And that creates a lot of internal conflict, because this is also the day their baby was born.
So there’s often guilt. Questions like, “Why does this still affect me so much?” or “Shouldn’t I be able to think about this differently by now?”
But when your body and nervous system went through something intense, it makes sense that it doesn’t just feel neutral when you look back on it.
The goal isn’t to get to a place where you love your birth story.
The goal is to be able to think about it without feeling overwhelmed by it. And to feel more grounded in your body now, more clear so you can make decisions about having more babies, and more like yourself in this version of motherhood.
If this resonates and you’re wanting support processing your birth experience, I offer therapy for clients in CA and FL. You can book a free consult at the link in my bio.
