01/25/2024
HOW TO HELP IF YOU ARE NOT THE PARENT
Your role is to support the child in the moment and share your observations and concerns with the family.
You can respond by simply reflecting back what you hear/see and giving it an appropriate label – not a diagnosis. This gives the child information and a way to talk to someone about what is going on. You can say things like, “It sounds like you’re really feeling awful,” “I can see and hear how sad you are,” “It looks like you feel out of control,” “You’re telling me you feel so bad you don’t want to live.”
Then, follow with comfort and reassurance like “We can get you help for those feelings,” “I’m taking you seriously and want to help,” “Let’s talk to someone about that right away.”
Your next step is to share what you observed with the parents, unless you have a serious reason to believe this will be harmful. In that case, share it with a mental health professional, a teacher, the school social worker, etc.
I cannot overemphasize how important this is. Many children will talk to their friends or someone else about how they’re feeling but not share this with their family. With 8% of 9- and 10-year-olds experiencing suicidality, this may save