BTW Counseling

03/03/2026

If you’ve ever said, ‘It wasn’t that bad, other people had it worse,’ AND your body still reacts like it was bad…
Congratulations, you’ve met:
✨ Trauma with a PR team ✨

Minimizing it doesn’t make it disappear. It just makes you feel guilty for still being affected. You’re allowed to call it what it is and get support.

03/02/2026

Some men don’t say ‘I’m struggling.’
They say:
‘I’m just tired.’
‘I’ve got a lot going on.’
‘I’m fine, it’s whatever.’

If your patience is short, your sleep is trash, and your brain never really turns off, that’s not you ‘being weak.’ That’s your system waving a giant flag.

03/01/2026

Symptoms of the Sunday Scaries:
- Staring at the wall thinking about your inbox
- Doing ‘one quick email’ that turns into 90 minutes
- Mentally rehearsing excuses to get out of a meeting you haven’t even had yet

If Sunday feels heavier than it should, your system is telling you something. You don’t have to hate every week to get help changing it.

02/28/2026

Let’s be honest:
When life is hard, my default coping skill used to be:
A) Doom scrolling
B) Snacks
C) Going numb and calling it ‘being chill’
D) All of the above

Drop your former coping letter in the comments (no shame, just data). I help people keep the funny and upgrade the coping.
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02/27/2026

Therapist math:

1 minor inconvenience + 10 years of unprocessed stress = ‘Why am I crying over the dishwasher?’

If your reactions feel bigger than the situation, it doesn’t mean you’re crazy. It usually means your nervous system is tired of holding everything by itself.

You don’t have to ‘earn’ support by having a huge crisis first.

02/26/2026

Hot take: therapy isn’t only for when your life is on fire.
It’s also for when:
- You’re tired of the same 3 arguments on repeat
- You’re fine on paper but not in your body
- You’re tired of trauma showing up as ‘I’m just busy’

Bare minimum rule:
If it bothers you, it’s valid. And yes, you can come to therapy before everything explodes.
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02/23/2026

Therapy isn’t about ‘fixing’ you. It’s about having one hour a week where you don’t have to keep it together for everyone else. If you’re in Colorado and you’re tired of white‑knuckling it, I’ve got space for you.

02/22/2026

For the men who went straight from ‘suck it up’ to paying the bills: irritability, shutting down, and overworking can be anxiety and depression in disguise. You don’t have to wait until everything blows up to talk about it.

02/21/2026

If you were praised for being ‘low‑maintenance,’ you might feel guilty for having needs now. Setting boundaries as an adult can feel rude when you were trained to be easy. It’s not rude. It’s how you stop resenting everyone.

02/20/2026

You don’t just have one ‘self.’ You have parts—the perfectionist, the helper, the shut‑down one, the angry one. In therapy, we don’t shame those parts; we figure out what job they’ve been doing for you and if they still need to do it.

02/19/2026

Trauma work is not about ripping everything open at once. It’s about going at a pace your nervous system can actually handle and still function in real life. You’re allowed to heal slowly and still count that as progress.

02/18/2026

So I did a thing… turns out all my ‘character-building struggles’ came with a plot twist: I’m now the therapist in the article, not just the hot mess in the story.

Today we’d like to introduce you to Deshae Waller. Hi Deshae, please kick things off for us with an introduction to yourself and your story.I’m the oldest of three, so from a young age I naturally stepped into a caretaker role and saw first hand how chaotic and painful life can be. I’ve experi...