Rocky Mountain Center for Families and Children

09/02/2023

I do want your child's behaviors to change but more than that, I want their hurt to be seen, known, honored, welcomed, and healed. As that happens, their behaviors will improve. I'm confident that this is true because this is simply how humans work.

Can we hold both together? The desire to see behavior change without being focused on behavior change?

Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors comes out September 21 and there are a couple different pre-order bonuses to choose from (20% or a signed copy). Head to my website through the link in my bio.

04/12/2023

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08/14/2022

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07/30/2022

Is your child participating in therapy? What exactly do they “do” in therapy?

Robyn Gobbel, therapist/writer shared a post on Instagram: "What do I do when if my child isn't participating is therapy??? Don't do anything to you listen to this week's podcast!!! There's a live link in my bio or search for the Parenting After Trauma podcast. Have you listened? What questions do y...

07/18/2022

"An escalated adult cannot de-escalate an escalated child."

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07/02/2022

You're getting reallllly good at applyjng the theory to kid's behavior, right?

Reframing opposition, defiance, and resistance as behaviors of a stressed nervous system in protection mode.

But...how are you doing applying that same theory to the parents you work with?

I know I used to be waaaay better staying regulated for kids.

With parents, I took things personally and came up with all sorts of explanations for their behavior.

But the explanation is the same. A nervous system is protection mode. Lack of felt safety and regulation.

If we want to regulate the kids, we have to regulate the parents ❤️ plus it's the ethical way to work AND reframing parent behavior will keep us further from burn-out.

If this sounds good, I'd love to have you join me at a 2.5 hour virtual workshop for professionals (any professional who works with parents) on Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents thru the Lens of Relational Neuroscience 🧠❤️

If you can't attend live, that's cool because everyone gets the recording..both audio and video.

If you are considering joining the 2023 cohort of Being With, this workshop will give you an awesome glance into how I work with parents.

Interested? Just drop me a funny gif in the comments and I'll reply with the link ❤️

Seeing comments flood with silly emojis is seriously the BEST.

06/08/2022

04/06/2022

A wonderful resource for parents!

03/31/2022

“They’re just trying to get attention.”
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Yes, of course they are. We all are. To need to be seen, to be heard, to be understood, is simply to be human. And children are as human as we are.
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Children, though, communicate their needs far more through behavior than words. So when your child is exhibiting attention-seeking behaviors, look for the unmet need behind the behavior:
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“I’m struggling with big emotions. Please pay attention.”
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“I don’t know how to cope with my sibling. Please pay attention.”
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“This task feels too big for me. Please pay attention.”
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“I’m scared. Please pay attention.”
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“I’m lonely. Please play attention.”
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“When you yell at me I’m afraid you don’t love me anymore. Please pay attention.”
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“When you’re busy all the time I feel like I disappear. Please pay attention.”
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“When you leave me alone at night I’m afraid something bad is going to happen. Please pay attention.”
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“I feel disconnected from you and that’s scary. Please pay attention.”
🍂..and the list goes on.
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All humans need their worries, their fears, their struggles, their problems, their disappointments, their pain, their tears, their interests, their excitement, their successes, their dreams, their humor, their laughter, their wonder — to be seen, to be acknowledged, to be understood. Tiny humans just have a very small circle of people they trust to meet those needs.
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Try to shift the narrative in your mind from “They’re just trying to get attention” to “They trust me to see and hear and understand and meet their needs.”
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It’s a small change in perspective that can create a huge change in your parenting.
-L.R.Knost

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

03/23/2022