08/11/2025
We Are All from the Same Dust
We are all from the same dust; you'd think we would see and interpret events in the same way.
Fortunately, we don't - because our differences challenge our beliefs and the ways we make sense
of the world. These challenges don't necessarily mean you were wrong; rather, they can be used as
tools for gaining deeper insight.
"Even if you don't agree, these moments broaden your understanding that will serve you in future
experiences"
Let me illustrate.
You're driving along the interstate and get a flat tire. You don't know how to change it. Here lies the
experience - you need to get somewhere, but you can't because of the flat tire. You call a friend for
help. As they change the tire, you watch, and in that moment you learn how to do it yourself.
But that's not the only lesson. You also learn that when you need help, it's okay to ask - and that being specific about what you need makes it more likely you'll get the right help. You discover that you've become a better communicator.
You also realize helping others can be an incredibly positive experience
Yes, in this case you were the one receiving help, but maybe you also learn the value of sacrificing
personal time to help someone else. And who cares? You do.
"Life becomes increasingly meaningless if you remain content with 'status quo'."
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The Takeaway
Don't run from or shut down experiences you dislike - unless they're abusive. Instead:
STOP.
STEP BACK.
BREATHE.
REPROCESS.
Often, our first response with negative experiences comes from an emotional mind rather than a logical or reasoning mind. That's rarely helpful.
Here's how to regain control of the only thing you
can truly control - yourself:
1. STOP engaging in the conflict.
2. STEP BACK physically and/or mentally.
3. BREATHE.
4. REPROCESS.
After these steps go back with a logical reasoni g mind and reevaluate the situation and attempt to find a more neutral or positive interpretation rather than allowing yourself to be stuck with those negative destructive thoughts taking valuable head space When emotions run high, your heart rate increases and blood rushes to your organs and muscles to prepare for
fight or flight. That oxygen has to come from somewhere, and often it's drawn from the brain - reducing your ability to think clearly. This is why emotionally charged arguments rarely resolve with logic.
Once your breathing returns to normal and oxygen is flowing back to the brain, then bring in your logic or reasoning. This helps you accept that some disagreements will never be resolved - and learning to be okay with that result.
You can hold your beliefs and still allow others to walk away unconvinced, just as you remain unconvinced by them.
“Differences dont have to be interpreted as measures of your worth and value It merely reflects their belief system which is born out of their life experiences.”
We don't have to see eye to eye to have peaceful, productive encounters, but we do need grace. Grace comes from stepping back, thinking clearly, and accepting a 'No' or 'You're
wrong' without hostility.
And yes - maybe they're right. Or maybe you are. But does every disagreement need to be settled?
I don't think so (admittedly this is an overly generalized and simplified point). Trying to change someone's mind often costs more time and energy than it's worth, especially when the outcome doesn't add value to your life.
That's not defeat - it's self-preservation. My goal is to enjoy the time I have, not to convince the
world of what is good or bad, pretty or ugly, smart or foolish. Has anyone noticed that the Bible doesnt tell you how to tell others how to live. No! The focus is on how I sould live my life
One day, I'll be gone, and some people will think, Good ridens. I'm okay with that - unless their
opinion is the result of my selfishness or ignorance. In that case, I will apologize sincerely. If they choose not to forgive me, I will accept it. My responsibility is to offer a “genuine” apology, not to force forgiveness.
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Side Note
Never use logic with someone operating from an emotional mindset - it doesn't work.
“Logic and emotion function on different planes of reality.”
A strong emotional response is a coping mechanism, a way to avoid expanding their perspective or
accepting others where they are in life. Acceptance doesn't mean changing your own stance; it means holding on to your beliefs while acknowledging theirs, even if they reject your point of view.
And believe it or not - that's okay.
There are billions of people who disagree with you, and billions more who think those billions are wrong. That's life.
We are all from the same dust, but each of us has a unique life history shaping our beliefs and worldview. No one sees life exactly as you do, because no one has lived entirely through your eyes. Accept that.
Use negative encounters as opportunities for growth. Learn to be at peace with yourself so you don't waste energy defending beliefs to someone who has no interest in considering them.
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These thoughts are general observations, not strict rules - just insights from nearly 40 years in the mental health field. Take what resonates, leave what doesn't, and feel free to add to the conversation. There are plenty of gaps in this post, but this is a social media source lol.
