Complex Trauma Coach

02/24/2023

Let’s discuss 5 ways to overcome anxiety and self doubt. What have you found that is working for you as you work to overcome self doubt/inner critic while befriending your inner coach these days?
-care -love -doubt -gone -will-NOT-win

02/20/2023

In this season, I am continuing to grow in my personal recovery journey, help others find their personal path toward their recovery journey, and working to enjoy the moment and not just focus on the end goal, but rather embrace the journey along the way. What are you doing to create this chapter of your story?

12/07/2022

Checkout this article that shares what one research study shows about trauma and how it rewires the human brain.

Exposure to trauma can be life-changing – and researchers are learning more about how traumatic events may physically change our brains. But these changes are not happening because of physical i

10/31/2022

Just a reminder to take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and know that more than anything your healing comes first! People pleasing is a trauma response! We will never be able to satisfy everyone and that’s OK! Find your tribe and stick with them! They will support you and you will support them to the best of each of your abilities. If you are seeking a tribe, feel free to pm me about our upcoming no cost introduction to Learning To Love Yourself group coaching program! Feel free to pm me or email me at candace@complextraumacoach.com

10/30/2022

As Dr. Gabor Mate said, “Trauma is not what happens to you, it is what happens INSIDE YOU.” Only YOU know if an experience was traumatic for you or not, but if you don’t understand what psychological trauma is, it’s hard to give language to what you have experienced.

10/11/2022

No matter what today brings, just remember tomorrow is a new day! If things seem like you just can’t make it one more day, reach out for help. I know all too well the medical system has failed so many people, but please know someone cares, you are important, you are valuable, and that someone that cares…is ME! I care about humans healing from psychological trauma, all forms and types of trauma, as well as anyone overcoming any adversities, seeking or in sustained recovery, those utilizing harm reduction of any form/fashion, and ALL HUMANS no matter what you have or haven’t done in your life, everyone deserves to be cared for, and I care for and have a desire to support any and all humans with a desire to learn and heal!

Please reach out if ever you need support or someone to talk too. I can share resources and there’s never any cost for my sharing resources with you, EVER! Every single human deserves a chance to live their life in recovery and to create connection with one another.

09/23/2022

Gabor Maté says it best when speaking on co-regulation. We want him to know how much we appreciate and respect the work he’s done for trauma survivors across the globe in bringing alternative treatments to the forefront! Thank you Dr. Maté!

09/22/2022

Such an honor to be working on a Complex Trauma Certified Professional through the International Association for Complex Trauma! I am so fortunate to have found Linda Meredith and Healing from Complex PTSD program! If you are looking for amazing resources as a survivor or helping professional, I HIGHLY recommend and encourage you to seek out her certification program!

~Complex Trauma Coach Candace Alley

09/12/2022

The man doesn’t know that there is a snake underneath. The woman doesn’t know that there is a stone crushing the man. The woman thinks: “I am going to fall! And I can’t climb because the snake is going to bite me! Why can’t the man use a little more strength and pull me up!” The man thinks: “I am in so much pain! Yet I’m still pulling you as much as I can! Why don’t you try and climb a little harder!?”
The moral is— you can’t see the pressure the other person is under, and the other person can’t see the pain you’re in. This is life, whether it’s with work, family, feelings or friends, we should try to understand each other. Learn to think differently, perhaps more clearly and communicate better. A little thought and patience goes a long way.

Be kind to people. Everyone we meet is fighting their own battle.