11/21/2025
𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 “𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴” 𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗕𝗲 𝗮 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗴𝘁𝗵
For most of us, the word controlling carries a heavy, negative charge. We associate it with rigidity, fear, or trying to dominate situations. But like every trait, control has both a shadow and a light. When it’s healed, conscious, and expressed with intention, being controlling is not a flaw... it’s a power.
If you’ve ever been told you’re “too controlling,” this is the reframe your soul has been waiting for.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗕𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗼𝘀
At its core, control is an instinct to create stability. Some people crumble in chaotic situations. Others freeze. You? You step forward. You organize, assess, and direct.
This is not dysfunction... it’s leadership.
Your ability to bring order where others feel overwhelmed is a sign that your energy naturally knows how to anchor a space.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗠𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝘀
Many people who carry controlling energy are protectors by nature. It comes from lived experience... childhood, past lives, intuition, or simply being the one who others lean on.
When conscious, this becomes a strength because you know how to:
guard your peace
maintain boundaries
shield loved ones
prevent harm before it happens
This isn’t controlling. It’s awareness with purpose.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗗𝗲𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘀 𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗠𝗶𝘀𝘀
Control-oriented people tend to notice the subtleties... the energy shifts, the small clues, the unspoken things. This heightened perception becomes a powerful tool in:
intuition
planning
manifestation
reading people
facilitating healing
It’s not about micromanaging. It’s about seeing what others overlook.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗪𝗮𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴
While others hesitate, you move. You direct the energy. You create momentum. You make decisions when no one else wants to.
This action-forward approach is incredibly valuable when:
leading teams
navigating uncertainty
managing business
guiding spiritual or emotional processes
Initiation is not control... it’s courage.
𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗼𝘄 𝘃𝘀. 𝗟𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗹𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗺𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹
Every trait has two expressions.
Shadow control sasay
“I don’t feel safe unless I’m managing everything.”
Light control says:
“I guide the energy with clarity and intention.”
The shadow is fear. The light is mastery.
When control transforms into its healed form, it becomes:
discernment
structure
emotional maturity
direction
intuitive leadership
This is the moment control turns into self-mastery.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗿
Some people are meant to flow like water.
Others are meant to be the cup.
If you’re someone who naturally takes charge, directs the room, organizes the energy, or creates the structure for growth... you are the container. You create the environment where everything else can flourish.
That is not being controlling.
That is being the guide.
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗳𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗲
Being controlling is only a weakness when it’s rooted in fear.
Being controlling becomes a strength when it’s rooted in intention.
It means you are someone who:
leads with clarity
creates stability
notices the subtleties
holds the space
protects the energy
shapes outcomes consciously
You’re not here to shrink that part of yourself. You’re here to refine it and use it as the spiritual technology it truly is.
If you’re feeling the shift and want deeper guidance, support, or personalized intuitive insight, you can book a private session, reading, or healing with me.
Let’s uncover your strengths, dissolve the fear, and align you with the life you’re meant to lead. Your next level is waiting.
May all your dreams come true. I'm so looking forward to reading you,
Ellie Lieberman | Be Guided by The Light
Intuitive Services: Spiritual Guidance | Tarot Readings | Mediumship Intuition can take on many forms. Throughout my years of practice, I discovered my style to be compassionate, patient, and straightforward. It's noteworthy that as I guide my clients through their journey, I continue to transform a...
