Unpacking.your.ish

03/25/2023

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03/19/2023

Hello, Unpackers! A new season has begun! Join Reese and Tae as we learn to “normalize” some new topics. Episode one is available now! Link in bio and below! Take some time, listen and enjoy! As always any fees back you have to offer is appreciated and wanted. Thank you for listening and as always, unpack your ish! https://anchor.fm/unpacking.your.ish/episodes/Unpacking-Normalizing-Intimacy-e1vi897.

01/28/2023

Posted • May a soft pillow be there. Rest and community care will save us.

01/26/2023

Posted • Approach dating and relationships objectively (as much as you can) and collect relevant data along the way.

People reveal A LOT about themselves in the beginning and over time.

⭐️ Pay attention to the consistent behaviors over time.

⭐️ Understand that what you see is what you’ll see more of.

Don’t make excuses for unacceptable behavior. AND everyone has bad days, for sure.

You’re not looking for perfect - there is no such thing - you are looking for good enough IN ALL the RIGHT WAYS.

➡️ Are you paying attention to their patterns and making informed decisions based on relevant DATA (not just feelings)?

➡️ What’s your pattern? And is that working out for you in terms of building connective relationships?

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01/26/2023

Posted • When you are in a long-term relationship, you won't feel perfectly happy every day. "Inevitably, differences and disappointments will happen, and you should discuss them with compassion and loving-kindness," advises therapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D. Dr. Brandt adds that practicing these healthy relationship habits can help couples weather difficult times. How many do you use with your partner?

Click the link in our bio to read more.

01/23/2023

Posted • Sometimes, expressing our limits are more than enough.​​​​​​​​
Other times, we may need to explore the way boundaries are being used.​​​​​​​​
We may benefit from paying attention to whether boundaries are being used as a way to avoid taking responsibility for hurtful behavior.​​​​​​​​
It takes maturity to be willing to reflect on this within ourselves.​​​​​​​​
It takes discernment to notice these patterns in others.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Reflecting on this with other people’s boundaries:​​​​​​​​
Is this person setting a boundary because they are reaching their own capacity?​​​​​​​​
Is their boundary solely about them and has nothing to do with me?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Some boundaries are deeply relational.​​​​​​​​
Some people may use boundaries because they can’t cope with what is happening.​​​​​​​​
Some people use them because they can’t regulate their shame.​​​​​​​​
There are so many potential reasons for this.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Sometimes we can address this if there is *NO ABUSE* present.​​​​​​​​
Sometimes we can bring this up if there is enough relational closeness/trust that may help to create space for new patterns of accountability.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
“I’m noticing that you’re setting more boundaries with me lately, and particularly so after we had some big fights. How can we make things feel safer for both of us?”​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
“I want you to know that you are allowed to make mistakes with me. You don’t have to be perfect. I feel so much closer with you when you can just own those mistakes and apologize. I’d really love to work on that together.”​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
I also want to say that we can’t and we shouldn’t have to be the one who always inspires these conversations.​​​​​​​​
Sometimes people can’t engage in offering us accountability.​​​​​​​​
And sometimes, there will be space, and willingness to meet us and grow.
// Silvy Khoucasian

01/19/2023

Posted • Whewww!! Now THIS is a whole metaphor for life! 🙌🏿 Taking notes bc really came through with a WORD on how partners unpack things differently (and he wasn’t talking about that suitcase) 🤔👀✍🏾🖤

How do YOU unpack differently from your partner??? 👇🏿👇🏾👇🏽

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01/18/2023

Posted • This is your reminder that while saving $5 a day or investing $20 per week may not seem “glamorous” or impactful on the surface small amounts and habits push you one step closer to your end goal each day.

Start small and start now!

01/18/2023

01/18/2023

Posted • There comes a time where you have to take a step back and reevaluate who can continue to speak into your life— Protect your energy. Protect your peace. And PRIORITIZE the people who will cheer you on when you’re not in the room. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

Who are the people in your corner??? Tag ‘em in the comments! 👇🏿👇🏾👇🏽

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01/15/2023

Posted • Rest and slowing down is not an afterthought. It is the foundation. It is what thriving looks like. We are enough. We will rest!

Listen to my convo with
Get into the long form offering of our rest message by reading my book Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto slowly.

Link to buy my book and listen is in bio.

01/14/2023

.your.ish Season 2:Episode 2 Unpacking Self-sabotage is live! and .authentic.maurice discuss how self-sabotage appears in their lives. https://anchor.fm/unpacking.your.ish/episodes/Unpacking-Self-Sabotage-e1t0ntt