10/29/2025
They call it clingy, but sometimes what looks like clinginess is really fear of abandonment.
It’s the nervous system remembering that love once vanished without warning. When connection feels uncertain, the body often panics faster than the mind can reassure it. For those who crave closeness, even brief separations can feel like small abandonments.
That fear can grow from many places — loss, betrayal, neglect, or too many goodbyes that became permanent — and it deserves compassion, not shame.
So, needing reassurance doesn’t make you “too much.”
It means a part of you learned that love isn’t always consistent, and that distance might mean danger.
It means you’re human for wanting to feel safe, and for longing to trust that love can still exist when there is space. And you deserve connection that feels steady, even when someone steps away. 💛
