03/12/2026
We've all been there. The next day is filled with to dos, you're tired, and know you need sleep. Yet no matter how hard you try, it's not happening. The more you try to fall asleep, the more pressure you put on yourself. This can turn a biological process into something that triggers anxiety and nervous system arousal, making sleep even more difficult.
If you're lying awake for longer than 15 minutes, get out of bed, preferably out of your bedroom entirely, and do something boring until you feel tired. Do your best to avoid activities involving screens, or that are likely to be activating. Then return to bed in a better state to let biology take over.
If sleeplessness is more than occasional, and/or significantly interfering in your life, look for a licensed mental health professional with expertise in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I)