Greater Chattanooga Christian Services

03/05/2026

Need help navigating a crisis. We can help you with your journey. Call GCCS today to book and appt with a Licensed Counselor at 423-499-9535

02/26/2026

What are the things you can change? What are the things in your life that you can't? How do we discern the difference? Let us assist you in your journey of gaining wisdom, discernment and an understanding of God's love for us. 423-499-9535

02/12/2026

In March 2002, a Bible fused into a chunk of World Trade Center steel was discovered in the Ground Zero rubble by a firefighter, featuring pages opened to Matthew 5, specifically the Sermon on the Mount. The damaged artifact, displaying verses about turning the other cheek, is displayed at the 9/11 Memorial Museum, representing survival and a message of forgiveness.
Key Details of the 9/11 Bible Discovery:
Discovery: The Bible was found during the cleanup of the South Tower debris by a firefighter and handed to photographer Joel Meyerowitz.
Condition: It was severely burned, torn, and fused to a piece of heart-shaped steel, yet remained partially legible.
Message: The open pages contained Matthew 5:38-39, which reads in part: "...But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other also," notes The New York Times.
Significance: Many viewed this as a message of hope and non-retaliation, providing a spiritual, enduring, and symbolic
counterpoint to the destruction.
Location: The artifact is part of the collection at the National September 11 Memorial & Museum in New York City.

The word of the Lord lives on and much like this Bible we too can be damaged and torn. The good news is you CAN heal. We can walk along side you in this journey of healing. Call us at 423-499-9535 to schedule your appt

02/06/2026

Want to learn more about The 5 Love Languages. Heather will be conducting a workshop where you can learn more Sign up today!

02/02/2026

Why Is My Husband/Wife Yelling at Me?
Understanding the behaviors and taking action in the areas you can control will help your wellbeing.
Est. reading time: 5 min.
Distressed woman experiencing emotional conflict as her husband yells, highlighting relationship tension and communication issues.
You might find yourself feeling stuck, lonely, and helpless. When your husband/wife yells at you, it can feel scary and alone. The fact you are reading this means you are looking for help and support to make things better, and that is a good sign. You say to yourself, “Why is my husband/wife yelling at me?” And it can feel like the burden of understanding and resolving this inappropriate behavior falls on you and not your husband, causing mental load. Can a husband yell at his wife? This behavior can be problematic as it inadvertently shifts responsibility away from the individual exhibiting the harmful behavior, making it crucial to address the root cause of such actions. Is yelling a red flag? This question is crucial because, from a clinical perspective, yelling can indicate deeper issues in the relationship. While conflicts can occur, consistent yelling is not a healthy form of communication. It’s important to recognize that while understanding the underlying reasons for yelling can be beneficial, addressing such issues often requires professional counseling to ensure both partners’ well-being.

Mental Load
We know from the research that 80% of the time women are the ones to bring up problems in their relationship. Women carry the mental load of family, kids, career and the health of the relationship. In other words…you are not alone.

This is hard and frankly not fair. The reasons run deep….related to social constructs and a patriarchal society. But in this moment that probably doesn’t matter. You just want to be in a relationship of mutual respect, friendship, understanding and connection. So how can you get there?

While it is not “your” problem, if it negatively impacts you, then it is a relationship problem. This means that while you might not be able to fix it, there are actions you can take to improve the situation.

Is yelling normal in a marriage?
Yelling is not a normal or healthy form of communication in a marriage. While disagreements and conflicts are inevitable, how they are handled is what matters. Consistent yelling can indicate a lack of proper conflict resolution skills and can create an atmosphere of fear and resentment. Healthy marriages are built on mutual respect and understanding, where both partners feel safe to express their feelings without fear of being yelled at.

Is yelling a red flag?
Yes, yelling can be a red flag in a relationship. It often signals deeper issues such as unresolved anger, lack of communication skills, or even emotional abuse. When one partner yells, it can create an imbalance of power and control, making the other partner feel disrespected and undervalued. Addressing this behavior early on is crucial to prevent further emotional damage and to work towards a healthier, more respectful way of communicating.

Strategies to address your husband yelling at you
Self Soothing and Taking Breaks
When one of us gets flooded, it is important to take a break since interactions will likely escalate if one partner is experiencing flooding. Once you get back to a regulated state, you are more likely to be able to have a productive conversation.

During the break, you can use self soothing techniques. It is important to not keep thinking about and rehashing the disagreement in your head as that will keep your body in a flooded state.

Softened Start Up
It is important to tell your husband how you feel when you are yelled at. You can use Dr. John Gottman’s softened start up. This means starting with ‘I feel ______ about _______ and I need______.’

When you start a discussion off with how you feel, it is much more likely to be a conversation that is productive and healthy.

Boundaries
Boundaries are an important tool to use to protect ourselves and to change our own behavior versus trying to change our partner’s. Boundaries are a way of protecting ourselves and setting clear limits about what we will and will not tolerate from someone else.

Aftermath of a Fight
After a regrettable incident occurs, it is important to process what has happened. There is a Gottman recipe for doing so which takes the guesswork and volatility out of the situation. During the process you both have an opportunity to talk about how you felt and how you perceived the situation.

Understanding why my husband is yelling at me
While this behavior is not ok, it can be helpful to gain some understanding behind why it is happening. Here are some potential reasons:

External stressors
Past trauma/attachment wounds
Lack of self awareness and self care
Depression or other mental health issues
Seeking professional help

For many couples working through these issues is too hard to do on their own. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness, and a trained therapist can help support you through the process to improve your relationship. They can also be helpful in identifying whether there are individual issues that need to be addressed. You can specifically look for a Gottman trained therapist or use this larger network to find a licensed clinician.

01/23/2026

Are you estranged from your children? Was it their decision or yours? Parent/child estrangement is increasing and we need to understand this issue more. If you are struggling with estrangement in your family, we can help. call 423-499-9535 for an appt.

01/15/2026

Please consider donating to GCCS so we can continue to provide quality Christian Counseling and Adoption services to the Chattanooga Community. Use our Venmo QR code below. Again, thank you for your generosity. If you have any questions, please call our office at 423-779-4445.

01/07/2026

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01/02/2026

We hope everyone is celebrating a Happy New Year!

12/23/2025

As we reflect on 2025, there are many reasons to rejoice and find gratitude in all that God has blessed us with. GCCS is thankful for everyone that has walked thru our door this year and we are excited about what 2026 will bring. Please consider us in your end of the year giving, so we can continue to counsel people in our community. Above all, Have a Very Merry Christmas from Beth, Jason, Steve and I (Pam).

12/14/2025

Seasonal Depression Disorder can occur during the Holidays. Are you experiencing some of these symptoms? We can help! Call 423-499-9535 for an appointment with one of our Therapist today.

12/02/2025