12/30/2025
🗣It might not be love! Sometimes what we call love is actually limerence. Limerence is an intense emotional fixation that can feel like love, but it’s rooted in obsession, idealization, and craving reciprocation. It often includes intrusive thoughts, emotional highs and lows, and a deep attachment to potential rather than reality.
Here’s the hard truth:
Limerence is often less about the person… and more about what they represent.
For many of us, it’s connected to attachment wounds and nervous system conditioning. When love has been inconsistent, unavailable, or earned, the brain can confuse uncertainty with chemistry. The chase becomes familiar. The longing becomes a pattern. This isn’t about shame. It’s about awareness.
Ask yourself: Am I connected to who they are… or to who I hope they’ll become? Is this love… or a need to be chosen?
Dont forget, you deserve love that is steady, mutual, and real. Not emotional limbo and worsening of your anxiety, lbs!
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