12/29/2025
“I joke about it so they don’t feel rejected.”
“I joke about it so I don’t have to explain myself.”
“I joke about it because saying I feel broken feels worse.”
Sometimes that joke is doing a LOT of work.
Because underneath it is
Feeling pressured
Feeling broken
Feeling like you’re constantly disappointing your partner
Calling it “low libido” is often safer than saying...
• I feel pressured every time se x comes up
• I’m scared I can’t meet their needs
• I miss wanting se x, but I don’t know how to get back there
A lot of people use humor to get through the discomfort of wanting se x less than their partner and quietly worrying they’re not enough.
If that’s you, nothing is broken. Humor helps you survive. But it can also keep the real conversation from happening.
Does this feel familiar? Or do you use humor to get through intimacy stuff too? 😬
*xualwellness